kellkell Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I have only been with my current boyfriend 11 months. He's my longest relationship and same goes for him so we've been learning along the way. I've just turned 20 and he will be too in a couple weeks. But now,he has no respect for me. He shows no affection. He never asks to see me and when he does he wants to leave early. We've never really had a sex life,he claims his quite inexperienced and I've been waiting for him to relax a bit more. When we do have sex,his nervous and can never cum. The only way he can cum is if he masturbates. He accuses me of cheating all the time. He threatened to dump me after finding out i'd had a girls night out. Claimed i didnt tell him,when i did,but he never checks his phone or even replies. I found a condom on display,in his car by the gear stick and we have never used condoms..He says he found it while clearing his car. Why keep it? especially on display. He is very immature. I said to him last night that unless we start treating each other right,there's no point us spending another day together. Hes out every night to around 1am,despite having to work the next day. During this time i receive no texts and calls of him. I get no replies to texts or calls and sometimes his phone is even switched off. I'll receive a text sometimes late at night to tell me his home. He tells me he feels numb. He says nothing is effecting him and he just doesnt care. I've fallen so deep for him. The last thing i ever want to do is let him go. But i know i can't take anymore of being mistreated and unfulfilled. I am actually questioning his sexuality as well..I'm confused as to how this guy i fell for has turned into some hot mess. I've been going through a hard time lately and he hasnt supported me half as well as he should of,he just got more selfish. He doesnt involve me in his plans,his friends tell him to dump me and he no-longer wants us to move in together. If he isnt going to change and we arent going to progress,what is there to stay for? I love him but i don't want to be stuck in a dead end relationship that is going nowhere and full of drama. Especially at the age of 20. Any advice much appreciated.
deathandtaxes Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 If he isnt going to change and we arent going to progress,what is there to stay for? I love him but i don't want to be stuck in a dead end relationship that is going nowhere and full of drama. Especially at the age of 20. You have answered your own question right here. Be done and don't look back. 1
elbe Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I was in a similar place at your age - except that we stayed together for another 5 years and now its harder in a hundred different ways.
Never Again Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 You've got three choices: 1.) tolerate his ****ty behavior 2.) sit him down, tell him you're unhappy enough to want to leave him and tell him to shape up or ship out 3.) dump him now, don't say a word and move along Right now this relationship is toxic. It likely can't be fixed, so I'd get prepared to leave.
Keenly Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 You are 20 and you are not happy. Thats really all the information you need to 86.
d0nnivain Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 What do you get out of staying? I don't understand why this a Q. Leave.
LadyM Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I was in a similar place at your age - except that we stayed together for another 5 years and now its harder in a hundred different ways. Learn from elbe and don't drag this out. Get out now and cut your losses. You are SO young and will surely have many more boyfriends and much happier and healthier relationships!!
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