Author lifeunderground Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 All very true points. Esp the gossip one. Yeah haha I guess I gotta wait for him to make a move I was just wondering what people's opinions were Thanks for your help
Author lifeunderground Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Update: yesterday I closed with him and another coworker. I usually get a ride from the other coworker (I live like 3 mins away driving ) so I asked the coworker as usual and he offered to drive me home instead (the other coworker said he'd do it tho) so he sparked a bowl in the car and we kept talking, the conversation was good. When he dropped me off I gave him a hug (he seemed receptive ) was this a bad move? I've never hugged a coworker haha I just felt the vibe that it was okay. With this information does it seem like he might be interested? after all my ride was set and he offered, he didn't need to do that.
Dallers Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Some guy posted on here the other day which I thought was a quality quote. "Never find your honey, where you make your money!." 1
Author lifeunderground Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 Some guy posted on here the other day which I thought was a quality quote. "Never find your honey, where you make your money!." I agree but I'm just curious if he seems interested. We both have agreed we are going to look for another job soon, this isn't our career path
Dallers Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 I agree but I'm just curious if he seems interested. We both have agreed we are going to look for another job soon, this isn't our career path I would say a quarter of the people I have been with have been work colleagues. They have all ended very badly and a few times caused me to lose or change jobs. It is not out of wanting that I refuse point blank to do it again. I even do not go out drinking at work because I know a few would try it on. You cannot choose who you like but at work it is a dangerous path you take. Change job first.
Author lifeunderground Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 I would say a quarter of the people I have been with have been work colleagues. They have all ended very badly and a few times caused me to lose or change jobs. It is not out of wanting that I refuse point blank to do it again. I even do not go out drinking at work because I know a few would try it on. You cannot choose who you like but at work it is a dangerous path you take. Change job first. Trust me I hear you, I've worked here for 4 months almost and have kept it pretty casual I know it's a dangerous road, and I am really fighting myself on the matter. I'm just not sure how much longer I can keep on a front that he's just another coworker. But at the same time I wonder if I'm completely delusional that theres interest anyway. Our history is strange too. Lol I'm a mess
Dallers Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 Trust me I hear you, I've worked here for 4 months almost and have kept it pretty casual I know it's a dangerous road, and I am really fighting myself on the matter. I'm just not sure how much longer I can keep on a front that he's just another coworker. But at the same time I wonder if I'm completely delusional that theres interest anyway. Our history is strange too. Lol I'm a mess I would be careful. But not rule it out as said you cannot choose who you like. It might be wise however to allow the other person to make the move, fully before considering if it is the right path. That at least gives you first refusal instead of feeling awful should you be rejected by someone at work which will leave the situation impossible.
Author lifeunderground Posted December 14, 2013 Author Posted December 14, 2013 I would be careful. But not rule it out as said you cannot choose who you like. It might be wise however to allow the other person to make the move, fully before considering if it is the right path. That at least gives you first refusal instead of feeling awful should you be rejected by someone at work which will leave the situation impossible. That's what I plan to do but honestly he doesn't seem the type to make moves. Which is probably for the best anyway I hope giving him a hug wasn't out of line.
Dallers Posted December 14, 2013 Posted December 14, 2013 That's what I plan to do but honestly he doesn't seem the type to make moves. Which is probably for the best anyway I hope giving him a hug wasn't out of line. Every guy is the type to make moves, if I was in his situation and what you have said had happened and he has not I would be asking why. It would not take me that long and I sit back as it is. Physical contact and Sexual contact are two completely different things. Which is why I think you should be cautious about making the move yourself because he seems to be playing it safe. You might both be worried about the work thing and not be admitting it.
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