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I've been working at this job for about 4 months

 

When I first started I thought I was in love with my coworker since the first day I saw him

he seemed into me too (acted nervous and looked at me a lot ect )

 

I got his number and texted him but got no response and added him on fb

 

He continued acting interested and accepted my request a few weeks later

I chatted with him on fb and we spoke briefly but after that things got weird

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Out of nowhere he became rude and would make ******* comments so I stopped liking him and began to resent him. He ended up deleting me on Facebook too

 

I have not been rude to this guy so idk wtf his problem was.

 

Then out of nowhere he's become extremely nice and helpful and always friendly

This has been within the past month or so.

 

He always says hi and bye to me and chats with me.

 

he complements me on my work ethic , laughs at all my jokes

 

Talks about his family and life

 

He's even sold weed to me twice outside of work.

 

He seems like he likes me so I'm confused

 

I know coworkers are a baddd idea so I'm refraining myself.

 

But it's just confusing, anyone have some insight?

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Personality disorder much? I wouldn't waste my time.

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I've been working at this job for about 4 months

 

When I first started I thought I was in love with my coworker since the first day I saw him

he seemed into me too (acted nervous and looked at me a lot ect )

 

I got his number and texted him but got no response and added him on fb

 

He continued acting interested and accepted my request a few weeks later

I chatted with him on fb and we spoke briefly but after that things got weird

.

Out of nowhere he became rude and would make ******* comments so I stopped liking him and began to resent him. He ended up deleting me on Facebook too

 

I have not been rude to this guy so idk wtf his problem was.

 

Then out of nowhere he's become extremely nice and helpful and always friendly

This has been within the past month or so.

 

He always says hi and bye to me and chats with me.

 

he complements me on my work ethic , laughs at all my jokes

 

Talks about his family and life

 

He's even sold weed to me twice outside of work.

 

He seems like he likes me so I'm confused

 

I know coworkers are a baddd idea so I'm refraining myself.

 

But it's just confusing, anyone have some insight?

 

Wow. What a Romeo!

 

Seriously. With these types of mood swings, are you sure he's not into anything stronger? Red flag in any case. RUN from the ultra-moody and disrespectful ones.

 

Re-read your post. You say you texted and got no response. Then he continued acting interested? That doesn't make sense. If he were interested, he would have responded. Honestly, I don't get the sense from you post that he's actually all that interested. I think he likes playing games with you.

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I don't get the feeling he's interested either. Playing games.

 

Hustling for that weed money son! :lmao:

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Wow. What a Romeo!

 

Seriously. With these types of mood swings, are you sure he's not into anything stronger? Red flag in any case. RUN from the ultra-moody and disrespectful ones.

 

Re-read your post. You say you texted and got no response. Then he continued acting interested? That doesn't make sense. If he were interested, he would have responded. Honestly, I don't get the sense from you post that he's actually all that interested. I think he likes playing games with you.

 

Lol the past behavior is really just background info the past month is just confusing

 

I'm not saying it's romantic haha but it is an outside of work event

 

And yeah he told me he does drugs now and then.

 

I'm just wondering if he is into me now that's all

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I don't get the feeling he's interested either. Playing games.

 

Hustling for that weed money son! :lmao:

 

Haha but he would've sold me weed from the getgo

 

All of a sudden he texts me asking if I need weed?

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Lol the past behavior is really just background info the past month is just confusing

 

I'm not saying it's romantic haha but it is an outside of work event

 

And yeah he told me he does drugs now and then.

 

I'm just wondering if he is into me now that's all

 

But it's relevant. He isn't stable. From what you described, it doesn't sound as though he ever really was interested. I don't think he's interested now either. He sounds warped and you'd be wise to stay away. I'd let this one go, OP.

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If it's relevant over fb chat in the beginning he told me to hit him up if I needed weed and I actually did but he was "out" months later he hits me up about the weed

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But it's relevant. He isn't stable. From what you described, it doesn't sound as though he ever really was interested. I don't think he's interested now either. He sounds warped and you'd be wise to stay away. I'd let this one go, OP.

 

I get what you're saying I'm not making moves trust me

 

It's just he's so nice and overly friendly lately

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Personality disorder much? I wouldn't waste my time.

 

Yeah he's got issues that's forsure

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It's easy for you guys to say he's not into me but his behavior suggests otherwise

 

I hated this guy for a while too it's not like I wanted this to Happen

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It's easy for you guys to say he's not into me but his behavior suggests otherwise

 

Actually his behavior suggests exactly that....

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Actually his behavior suggests exactly that....

 

Haha okay then lol

 

This past month I'm talking about NOT the past

 

Nothing this past month suggests he's not interested

 

I only gave a breif summary too.

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Haha okay then lol

 

This past month I'm talking about NOT the past

 

Nothing this past month suggests he's not interested

 

I only gave a breif summary too.

 

Enlighten us. What else can you add that would clarify his interest?

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what kind of things does he say to you to make you feel interested?

 

Talking about his personal life, laughing at your jokes and being nice doesn't mean he likes you.

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.

 

He always stares at me, uses a different flirty tone of voice than with any coworker.

 

Picks up after me, is super polite and even nervous

 

Says "excuse me,thank you, and please"

 

says "wow you are killin it"(At my job)

 

goes out of his way to say bye

 

it's hard to explain maybe I shouldve left out the past info cause now everyone is so set on he doesn't like me.

 

It's confusing

 

But trust me I refuse to make a move

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.

 

 

But trust me I refuse to make a move

 

Then all you can do is wait for him to make one.

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Then all you can do is wait for him to make one.

 

Haha yeah but he does seem like he has issues I really just want to hookup more than anything

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"He even sold weed to me twice outside of work." LOL! Loveshack quote of the week. That sounds like a man in lovre!

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so ask him "hey, wanna hook up?" just as bluntly as he asked you about the weed.

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Haha seems like people just want to slam people on here.

 

I'm not saying he's in love but my coworkers do not associate outside work

 

We did smoke and talk for a good 30 minutes

 

All I'm saying is I've noticed interest as of lately

 

I don't expect people to get it but it's just really confusing

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so ask him "hey, wanna hook up?" just as bluntly as he asked you about the weed.

 

Haha if I am wrong though it'd be awkward

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Haha if I am wrong though it'd be awkward

 

wrong about what? hooking up isn't about strong feelings or whatnot, you two seem interested enough. It's a yes or no question, nothing awkward about it.

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wrong about what? hooking up isn't about strong feelings or whatnot, you two seem interested enough.

 

I know I figured that much most guys will hookup with just about anyone

 

Not to be conceited but I am attractive

 

I just don't know what made him rude and then delete me and now nice lol

 

I also am not sure about hooking up with someone I work with all the time

 

I did have feelings for this guy and do not want to catch them again

 

Not to mention if he is not down he could gossip at work about it

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I know I figured that much most guys will hookup with just about anyone

 

Not to be conceited but I am attractive

 

I just don't know what made him rude and then delete me and now nice lol

 

I also am not sure about hooking up with someone I work with all the time

 

I did have feelings for this guy and do not want to catch them again

 

Not to mention if he is not down he could gossip at work about it

 

All very true points. Esp the gossip one.

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