P4YN Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Hello everybody, I'm gonna share my history, and i want your advice/tips/opinions if you have them. I dated this girl for 2 years. We really liked each other, and this was the first serious relationship we both had. 3 month ago i talked to her, that we should end this "on and off situations", because she was going to college and i was at the unemployed and not doing anything with my life, and i felt that it would be better for her to forget me and move on, not being attached to someone. And we haven't talked for 3 months. During this time i thought i could forget her as well, but i realized i don't want this, i want her, i wanna be with her. I went to talk to her about how i feel, how i miss her, and how i wanna get back together. She told me it was really hard for her to forget me, forget us, and she was happy now, single. We've been talking for these couple weeks, facebook, texts, on the phone. She told me she's seeing someone, it's not a relationship, she doesn't see any future with him, they haven't had sex, but they are together every now and then, she likes his company. She also said to me that she still has some feelings for me and always will have, but at the moment she doesn't see any future with me, and that i hurt her a lot and she needs time to thing, its hard. When i was talking to her on the phone, saying how happy we were together and that we could be that happy again, even better, she said: "why didn't you come talk to me 1month ago, it would've been so much easier". We talk a lot, she tells me about her day, what's she doing, about college, friends, we talk about our past sometimes. But again, she is so defensive, she always throws at me that i was the one that broke up, and push her away. We both mess with each other's head so much, i know it. She said she's not in an easy position, and she was fine before i came talk to her. I don't know how to think, what to do. Am i being delusional, and i should forget and move on? or Should i fight for her, be patient, give her time to think, and try to be together with her? I really like her, my heart is hurting so much. Please, give me advices/tips/opinions, anything that can help me, thank you all!
Augustus64 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 It sounds like you made it clear to her exactly where you stand. I would say NC for sometime and during this time you work on getting yourself together some ambition, goals you could set to make you more self sufficient and appealing to not just her but any other potential suitors. hit the gym. Girls want men that can lead. Want her is cool but don't feel like you need her because truly you don't. your young dude. you'll be fine and if you do speak to her sound positive up beat and be friendly do not pressure her or she'll spring in the other direction into this dudes arms. CONFIDENCE, BREATHE. It will be what it will be.
Author P4YN Posted December 5, 2013 Author Posted December 5, 2013 @Augustus64 Thank you so much for your words. You are absolutely right! I want her back yes, i miss her a lot. I'm taking care of my life now not only for her, but for me, it's time to grow up. And it's true, i need to be more confident in myself. You made me feel so good, with just a few words! Thank you.
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