dntl Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Hi everyone, I am having an issue that I am needing some help with. I have been dating an awesome girl for almost a year now. We had some rough patches but we appeared to work through them. She recently started a new job and I started a new position at my work. When she first started and up to this week we always texted all day, through out the day, but now I receive nothing. It takes her hours on end to respond, even when its points that she has been off for work for hours. In addition to this, she seems distant. I don't know how to describe it but its like a vibe that she is on her way out. I have tried to talk about it in a round about way as I didn't want to come off as needy, what girl really wants to hear "are you bailing on me" ? How should I deal with this? should I just not text her until she texts me? should I start prepping for a disaster? Thanks
soccerrprp Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Prepare for the worst, but wait for her to get back to you and want to talk. Let her know that you are open and available and that you are a little concerned that she has been a little distant or that you feel something is bothering her. Nothing cling about that.
Author dntl Posted December 5, 2013 Author Posted December 5, 2013 Thanks for the reply. After not hearing from her all day yesterday she sent me a text after I went to sleep saying that she was really busy at work and that she went to see her friend, said that she loved me,etc. But she does reply to texts usually and she does to other friends when we are together too. should I wait out today to see if she texts or calls? I feel like I should just wait on her to make a move before I do anything
soccerrprp Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 But she did make a move, right? She texted back. Text her back something to let her know you're thinking of her, but nothing lengthy. See how she responds to that.
lovecomesandgoes Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Hi, seems like she is trying to ease you off with a seemingly "easy" break-up without doing too much damage and making it easier for herself too. I have done this every time I wanted to break up with a guy or no longer had much feelings left. Although, there was one time that I did this to a guy simply because I was starting to really fall for him and I knew he was not the trust-worthy type, so I smartened up and decided to avoid him so when I do break up, it's easier on me too. You really can't make someone love you, it's true, and the more you pursue them the more they want to get away. I had an ex that I dated for 3+ years, was literally begging me and messaging me the most random stuff after I already got a new boyfriend, not only it annoyed me more, it made me confident that I made the right decision. I ended up cutting him off completely because he seemed to be going a little crazy, remember, if she does break up with you, give her time with ZERO interaction and if she genuinely liked you before, then she will miss you. Good luck
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