SugarPlumFairy Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 What do you do when a friend is cheating on their spouse? With multiple hook up type situations with both sexes? I don't have contact with the spouse of my friend at all bc they didn't meet and get married til my friend moved to the other side of the country. Now our friendship exists only in text and phone calls. My husband says I shouldn't even continue being friends with someone who would do that to their spouse. It's none of my business if what my friend chooses to do in this situation but I'm getting a little sick of the bragging and the blatant lack of guilt or shame.
CC12 Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 It's none of my business if what my friend chooses to do in this situation but I'm getting a little sick of the bragging and the blatant lack of guilt or shame. If nothing else, you can ask your friend to stop telling you about his/her hookups because it's making you uncomfortable. If it were me, I would probably let the friendship fizzle out. It doesn't seem like you're that close anyway, if you only communicate through text/phone. 1
Sugarkane Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Why aren't more people like you?! The breakup that brought me here, I was cheated on and dumped by text. Yet everyone happily took my cheating exes side over mine.
Woggle Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Tell them to stop telling you about it. You can't really do anything about but you don't want to hear the details anymore.
nescafe1982 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 Personally, I would stop associating with the person, and I would be upfront about why if they ever asked me. I find cheating to be so socially corrosive that I wouldn't want to be anywhere near it, regardless of whether the cheater was a friend or not.
Keenly Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 You can choose not be around that person, but that's really the line when it becomes not your business.
writergal Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 If you want to maintain the connection with your friend, put up some boundaries by telling him/her that you're sick and tired of his/her bragging about his/her affair. Be direct. Say what you think. I see no problem with being honest. Why people are afraid to be honest with each other these days, is beyond me. Or, if you couldn't be bothered, then just stop responding to your friend's texts and emails and let that connection fade away. I've done that before with friends who've moved out of state or moved abroad. I see that as your 2 choices. The only reason your husband's chimed in, is probably because you've complained to him about your friend, right? Your husband probably thinks if you cease contact, then you won't complain to him anymore about your philandering friend. So that's his opinion. But what's your opinion? If it bugs you, tell your friend to stop updating you with that kind of news, or just stop all contact and be done with that person.
mammasita Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 I would tell my friend he/she was an asshat and that they needed to be single and then stop talking to him/her.
regine_phalange Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 I get pretty annoyed and start the preaching.
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