Hungup123 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Hello everyone, I will be going on my third date with this girl on Saturday. The first portion of the date will be zip lining which should take ~3 hours. Afterwords she suggested we go on some sort of river boat which lasts between 7pm-1am. She lives about an hour away so the dates normally last a good portion of the day and we do some pretty fun and exciting things. I'm curious though, she specifically took off work to hang out with me and have me stay there so I wasn't rushed to get back home for work and other obligations the next day. Would it be wise to continue with the riverboat idea, leading into the late night, or suggest that we go back to her place after ziplining, and watch a movie and make dinner. Since the theme of our dates have been very very "active", I don't want to seem like I'm being too desperate to get her back to her place to watch a movie if she had other grandiose ideas. The riverboat would result in me spending the night most likely if it ends at 1am, whereas the other may fizzle out at 8pm or so.
PegNosePete Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Why do you feel you have to ask an internet forum full of random strangers how you should be spending time with a new potential girlfriend? Do you want us to come with you, hold your hand and tell you what to say to her as well? Really how do we know? We don't know you, her, or your relationship. Do what you feel is most enjoyable for you.
DatingInYour40s Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 That was a little harsh of a response. We're all here asking an internet forum of strangers all sorts of questions. We're all trying to figure this out the best way we can and some just need a little more guidance than others. My suggestion is to go with her suggestion and do the river boat. Sounds fun! Me personally, I like a guy to make the plans and have the initiative but since she threw that out there, go with it. In advance, you should talk about overnight arrangements. Or has that been decided your staying the night at her place?
d0nnivain Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Since she suggested the riverboat, I'd go with that. Suggesting movies & dinner "in" on the 3rd date for many women triggers the idea that the guy just wants to have sex. I'm not saying that you do, but it's a possibility that she will think you do. Talk to her about your timing concerns. I'd suggest that you offer ziplining this time, then the river boat thing for your 4th date.
Donnie Darko Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 What would you rather do? Do that whatever it is and have fun and enjoy it. Some girls are offended if you don't make a move soon enough. I would go with the dinner and dvd and go for the hook up....but I think it is too boring taking things slowly.
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