alexjames Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I'm 21. Last year I met my first ever GF. I met her on a dating site and we were together 9 months, and they were the best months of my life. She then ended it back in February. After this I tried to find someone else, so started looking online but nobody ever really seemed bothered with me. I then got set up with a girl via a work mate, but that only lasted 2 months and ended in September/October. Ever since then, I've tried online dating again. I have literally sent hundreds of girls messages, and only one has replied. We ended up dating a few times and we really liked each other, but it unfortunately never developed and we stopped seeing each other. Since then, Nobody has replied to my messages, I send new people messages everyday, and they are always directed to that person in particular and asking things about them and their profiles etc, rather than just a copy and paste job. I work every weekday from 12(noon) till 9, and am busy most Saturdays, so it's tough meeting people, plus I'm really shy and insecure around new people,so online is probably my best option as I can know about them before meeting them! But should I just give up? It's getting pretty tedious constantly being ignored haha! Or has anybody got any advice? Thanks for any replies
jeremy2125 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 First off, get your butt away from the computer and get out there. You are 21 so go to bars, learn to dance and go to dance clubs. Doesn't matter where you go just get out there. Preferably go to places where you can be the center of attention and have fun. You do have a sunday off right? It's time you grow a pair and start talking to people. Doesn't matter what you say just as long as you say something. Ask for opinions, talk about some interesting things you've seen recently, these are great openers for people in general. Read up on lovepanky.com the stuff works. 1
Author alexjames Posted December 5, 2013 Author Posted December 5, 2013 That's the thing. When I say I'm busy on Saturdays, it's mainly because I'm a big football fan (soccer if you're American!) and I follow my team every week, all around the country, and before someone tells me to stop doing this, then I'll say that It's a big passion of mine so I won't stop doing what I love!! I do go clubbing most Saturday nights aswell, but the girls there are always drunk and only after one thing, which I'm not looking for! I do go to pubs with a couple of mates on a Sunday evening aswell, but never met anyone there. When you say to just talk to people, I do have confidence issues (nothing major but it still stops me sometimes) and if I just walked up to a girl and randomly spoke to her, the only thing she'd give me is a nice black eye!! So I'm a little stuck to be honest!!
FitChick Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 It's the holiday season so you might do better meeting women at parties or holiday shopping. Good excuse to chat to a girl, "Do you think my granny would like this?" I would think that pubs would be festive and people more friendly as well. I took my profile down and will wait until after the first of the year because people often dump their partners because they want a new start.
jeremy2125 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Ok then, football games, that is a good start, i'm pretty sure you'll find girls that are into this kinda sport, by follow do you mean go to every single game? Take the time to go to a game in person if you follow on computer. Your not stuck, I talk to random girls all the time and I have never been hit. Not all girls at bars have the same intentions, believe me. you will find a small number that are like that. I insist that you get to know them before making judgements like that. I used to have the same issues as you did. For your past relationships, did you have any problems that you knew of?
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