sandra parker Posted January 1, 2005 Posted January 1, 2005 Hello Everyone, Happy New Years! Some of you may be familiar with my situation, but for those of you who are not, here is a synopsis: Five year relationship, broke-up five months ago, have had contact during break-up, ex has new girl friend and we have tried to establish a friendship because he is involved with my son. This of course, did not work for me. I just got done writing him a short letter basically telling him that while I am grateful for what we had, I am still in love with him and it is impossible for me to move on while we remain constant in one another's lives. I wrote that as an act of self-respect, I must end all contact with him. I also wrote that I hope that he will respect this and that while I wished for more of 'us' I want to have real love in my life. I have tried to adjust to us being over and remain in his life and it just does not work. In token of the new year, I want a new beginning for me as well. I believe I did the right thing. I am sick and tired of feeling depressed, frustrated and getting mixed messages from him whenever I see him. I really want this behind me. I want to have peace and love in my life. What do you guys think?
theone44 Posted January 1, 2005 Posted January 1, 2005 Originally posted by sandra parker Hello Everyone, Happy New Years! Some of you may be familiar with my situation, but for those of you who are not, here is a synopsis: Five year relationship, broke-up five months ago, have had contact during break-up, ex has new girl friend and we have tried to establish a friendship because he is involved with my son. This of course, did not work for me. I just got done writing him a short letter basically telling him that while I am grateful for what we had, I am still in love with him and it is impossible for me to move on while we remain constant in one another's lives. I wrote that as an act of self-respect, I must end all contact with him. I also wrote that I hope that he will respect this and that while I wished for more of 'us' I want to have real love in my life. I have tried to adjust to us being over and remain in his life and it just does not work. In token of the new year, I want a new beginning for me as well. I believe I did the right thing. I am sick and tired of feeling depressed, frustrated and getting mixed messages from him whenever I see him. I really want this behind me. I want to have peace and love in my life. What do you guys think? I hear ya. One door close,and a better door will open,with lots of good blessing.
KaiaMahina Posted January 5, 2005 Posted January 5, 2005 I think you did absolutely the right thing for yourself, and for all concerned. You're correct: you can't establish a new life for yourself without him as long as he's in the background. Absence may make the heart grow fonder, but once you know it's over, "out of sight, out of mind" is the better proverb. It's difficult enough when you have no contact whatsoever -- I'm at 6 months of absolutely no contact and I'm only now regaining some semblance of normality -- I can't imagine making any progress whatsoever if I had to see an ex on a regular basis and have to behave as though I wasn't being drawn and quartered! Happiest of New Years, and New You, to you!
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