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Do you think there is a realistic chance to get back together with your ex after some years? Whether there has been a one-sided break up or mutual breakup, low-contact and no contact after all these years.

 

Assume at some point in life you bump into your ex and you start getting in touch again! Or one person starts contacting the other via email, fb or whatsoever.

 

Is there a real chance? Or would you even want it if you see the other person has changed positively and it could be a complete new start?

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Yes, of course it's possible. I'm sure it has happened before. Sometimes it's all about timing. I also think the individual personalities, the kind of relationship you had before, and the reason for the breakup are key... assuming trust and respect were upheld throughout.

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Yes it is possible. It is also possible to get quickly dumped again after getting back together. Been there done that.

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Yes, of course it's possible. I'm sure it has happened before. Sometimes it's all about timing. I also think the individual personalities, the kind of relationship you had before, and the reason for the breakup are key... assuming trust and respect were upheld throughout.

 

 

good point. I also think time decides plus we are changing. so it can be even better afterwards, assuming trust and respect has always been there. i mean if two old lovers get in touch again after years and start talking again. anything can develop. i kind of want to see my ex in the future again. we broke up in a good way cause of our careers. but for no i dont want to be in touch with her. thats my feeling now...and ill date new girls. but anything can happen

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Do you think there is a realistic chance to get back together with your ex after some years? Whether there has been a one-sided break up or mutual breakup, low-contact and no contact after all these years.

 

Assume at some point in life you bump into your ex and you start getting in touch again! Or one person starts contacting the other via email, fb or whatsoever.

 

Is there a real chance? Or would you even want it if you see the other person has changed positively and it could be a complete new start?

 

It's possible and has happened.

 

However, most times you've moved on and have no interest in getting back together. I assume you recently broke up with someone, as most times that's when people are concerned with this possibility; but oddly, with time, you most times end up no longer wanting to be with your ex of how many years ago.

 

I have given an ex a chance again after about 3 years, it still didn't work, as certain things didn't change. But it is possible depending on the reason for the break up and how things have changed later that one can rekindle and it work out.

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I reunited with a old girlfriend from 40 years before back in 09 and we were together for nine months......................didn't work.

 

What you get is pretty much the same person. Same faults. Same quirks. Same habits. Everything that caused the breakup in the first place just an older person and lets face it, the older you are, the harder to break old habits. Don't know how old you are but believe me it's the same thing I went through.

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5 years ago I had a short-term thing of 4 months with a girl. She was still hung up on her ex. We had good communication about everything, I decided to go NC after we discussed it. No fights, just a mutual understanding.

 

 

I started talking to her again about 2-3 months ago. Something is happening for sure. So ye, I think it's possible.

 

 

I'm still undecided wether I want it though, since it's not the reason I contacted her. For now I just let it all play out...

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5 years ago I had a short-term thing of 4 months with a girl. She was still hung up on her ex. We had good communication about everything, I decided to go NC after we discussed it. No fights, just a mutual understanding.

 

 

I started talking to her again about 2-3 months ago. Something is happening for sure. So ye, I think it's possible.

 

 

I'm still undecided wether I want it though, since it's not the reason I contacted her. For now I just let it all play out...

 

this sounds kinda interesting, especially after 5 years. im in the position that we had no fights and actually liked each other a lot. at the end she was looking for a reason what made her change her mind about me, but i guess it was part to move on wit hehr life cause she couldnt forget about me. im also NC with her now, but i thought maybe of getting in touch with her at some point in the future, as friend or more, i dont know. but did she contact you or you contacted her?? and who broke up?

 

well i like this girl a lot, of course i still have feeling. and we were only together for 4 months, but had the most amazing time ever. for now i need to forget about her, but its interesting to know that people got back together. lets see

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this sounds kinda interesting, especially after 5 years. im in the position that we had no fights and actually liked each other a lot. at the end she was looking for a reason what made her change her mind about me, but i guess it was part to move on wit hehr life cause she couldnt forget about me. im also NC with her now, but i thought maybe of getting in touch with her at some point in the future, as friend or more, i dont know. but did she contact you or you contacted her?? and who broke up?

 

well i like this girl a lot, of course i still have feeling. and we were only together for 4 months, but had the most amazing time ever. for now i need to forget about her, but its interesting to know that people got back together. lets see

 

 

Well her ex broke up with her because he had feelings for someone else. That girl wasn't interested in him so he came running back. She didn't just take him back, and meanwhile I came into the picture. We really talked alot so I knew what was going on, and basicly I decided to just vanish. I told her that, and we both agreed on that.

6 months later she went back to the ex (I know this now, not then), we moved on with our lives.

 

My recent ex kinda threw stuff at me that I didn't consider to be me, so I contacted this one from 5 years ago because she seemed very 'sane', to see how she thought about me. If waht recent ex said could be true.

 

So we started talking, within 2 weeks I recon her feelings for me came back. I didn't ask for it. And she is still with previous mentioned ex/bf. Normally I don't interfere with other peoples relationships but I always felt he wasn't right for her. And I guess she is aware now that he isn't giving her what she needs.

 

So uhm... well ye, I'm just seeing where this will go really. I don't steer it, I leave it all up to her.

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