Kkristine Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I've been in a relationship for a little over a year, and we recently moved in together this past summer. I feel as though I've always been in denial about my feelings for him. A couple months into the relationship, I started getting really stressed out about it. I didn't want to end things, because it was my first actual relationship. The next months to follow, I could tell he felt serious about us. He told me he loved me, was always getting me flowers, inviting me on his family vacations, always wanting me to stay with him, and eventually wanting to move in together. I was just enjoying the ride, as he is my first.. everything. My confusion had left me for a good while when I was enjoying being unemployed & pampered by my boyfriend. We weren't living together just yet, so I enjoyed my alone time. But, I also really enjoyed just being around him. He made me feel so comfortable, and I figured that's what love was. Although I was never crazy about the "private times" and the "I love you's" I would get butterflies with little things, like hand holding in the car and hugging me in bed. After we moved in together, my comfortableness increased. I no longer have those feelings I did in the beginning of our relationship, but I still feel "unnatural". When I get flowers, I think they are nice. But, I don't love him more for doing it. He has become my best friend, and I miss him terribly when he's gone. But, I don't want to jump on him or kiss him like crazy when he returns, I just want to be around him, like watching a movie & ordering dinner. Our "private times" aren't bad, I genuinely enjoy it. But, I could live forever without it with him. He brings up marriage and children a lot, and I have come to the conclusion that he wants to pop the question fairly soon. I could see myself marrying him, buying a house, having kids, the whole nine yards. I get giddy thinking about it, and have been caught myself bringing it up more than he does. That is the weird part... I am just utterly confused, because I don't know if what I'm feeling is normal in a serious relationship or if it is a sign to hit the road.
gaius Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 There isn't really only one normal or correct feeling when it comes to relationships. Hugh Heffner's wife has admitted she wants to throw up at the thought of sex with him but she married him anyway since everything else is valuable enough to her to make up for it. Their marriage works for both of them. Have you ever gotten that giddy feeling about sex with another guy? Had an urge to kiss him and the such? If not, maybe the sexual part just isn't a strong desire of yours. You certainly wouldn't be the first woman who's suffered silently through the sex part of a marriage since she enjoyed everything else that came with it.
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