Qactus Posted December 8, 2013 Posted December 8, 2013 just get yourself up for the challenge. Its was never your fault. She made her choice, she took the decision. Just stay OKAY with this. You do not have to regret anything. Just be yourself, be a man! Try to face the emotions and try to fight with them. THis will get better i promise I'm on the same boat as you. I find it really hard to forget her and her memories but just like you.. i'm trying and please dont give up! Better days are coming
Author LoveBoat242 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 It's day 7 of NC and a blocked number called me this morning it was my cheating EX running back, before she called the last 5 days have been good and i was doing great, then she called and now i feel like crap again, she said i want to work things out ( after she dumped me and cheated on me ) and i said no and hung up she sounded so sad on the phone though, she broke my NC cause i didn't know it was her calling now i just feel like crap
reddragon588 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 It was a blocked number, so you can't know who it really was. Try not to overthink it. My pharmacy calls from a blocked number when they call me. It could be a lot of different things. 1
Author LoveBoat242 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 It was a blocked number, so you can't know who it really was. Try not to overthink it. My pharmacy calls from a blocked number when they call me. It could be a lot of different things. no it was her, it was her voice, she said it was her, 100% her, she called off a blocked number so she would think i didn't know who it was
strive Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 yup it's hard if you're really doing great on your NC and it suddenly got broken. it's not your fault, so don't be too hard on yourself. but the upside is you can bounce back from this faster. it'll likely take you half the time to start feeling great again. 1
strive Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 no it was her, it was her voice, she said it was her, 100% her, she called off a blocked number so she would think i didn't know who it was what he means is it could have been anyone and you had no way of knowing before answering. 1
Author LoveBoat242 Posted December 9, 2013 Author Posted December 9, 2013 what he means is it could have been anyone and you had no way of knowing before answering. oh ok, yeah, deep down i do kind of want to call her back and make things right, but i know i can't and that will be bad, just the urge to do its pissing me off she ended the thing she had with a guy to crawl back to me after she cheated on me and broke my heart
Sugarkane Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 It was a blocked number, so you can't know who it really was. Try not to overthink it. My pharmacy calls from a blocked number when they call me. It could be a lot of different things. I also get blocked calls from my service provider, trying to sell me stuff. Very annoying. 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 Don't worry about her sounding sad, she should be. Guilt is a very powerful emotion, I wouldn't want to talk to her until she's healed and thinking straight, then you will truly know how she feels. I'm sure you felt a lot worse than her. It's only been a week of NC it's way too soon to do anything except heal. Resist the urge to contact her, would look very weak on your part and she won't feel a lesson to be learned. Give it some months and see how you feel then, let her learn from her mistake. If she's no longer around that speaks for herself. 1
forgetmenot75 Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I feel your sadness if there's nothing left, my advice would be to move on, specially if she has cheated on you. If you're unsure of what to do and feel like a mess, keep no contact for at least 6 weeks to clarify your mind.
StyleOnEm Posted December 9, 2013 Posted December 9, 2013 I never answer blocked calls... if it's important whoever calls would leave a voicemail.
Author LoveBoat242 Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 It's 1 month today since break up, today is the day where it's all kinda sunk in, the single life, all i'm thinking about is missing her, even though she cheated on me etc, i still miss all the good times we have, they we opened up to each other like nobody else, just all hit me and i miss her, i miss the good times, my mind wont let me care about the bad things she has done at the moment, i don't know i'm just venting, deep down all i want to do is go to her house now see her give her a hug and leave.
Author LoveBoat242 Posted December 11, 2013 Author Posted December 11, 2013 Nope, nope, nope... I wouldn't do it, i'm just venting.
Just smile Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 She cheated on you and you want to go to her house? You see I don't understand that. Somedays I wish he cheated on me. Or I wish I knew he had another woman it would be a clear easy fast cold turkey escape for me. Yea it would hurt but I could NEVER get past someone cheating on me, it's such a blatant form of disrespect , just walk away and make her regret ****ing that other guy.. You deserve better. ( yeah and I wish I could take my own advice )
d0nnivain Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 It's understandable. You miss the couple-stuff & you miss the good times. However, you need to remember that the relationship ended because of the bad times. Seeing her will make you feel worse. Hang in there & fight the urge to go to her.
theonlyjuan Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 No way! I can't stand the fact that I see her in my workplace sometimes and on nights out. I would happily take the option of never seeing her again. I don't miss her anymore, seeing her is just an inconvenience You can have good times with someone else. When you start mixing with other girls then you will feel better, it's worked for me. I get more attention now then I ever have from girls, quite a few are interested in me. I worked on myself straight away after my breakup, it's nice to know my hard work paid off. I was a bit like you for the first week but I decided I couldn't live like that. I just forced myself into other things and it definitely worked. They fall off the pedestal that we put them on. Someone else will soon take their place, just stay positive and work on yourself.
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