Jord Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 i'm curious if anyone is on good terms with ex? my ex wants be friends in the future, but what will happen? -did you guys have a bad breakup, but then became cool down the line? -how long before you reconnected and were on good terms again? -did the friendship lead to something more? -how is it like being friends with them?
hestheone66 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Realise altough i thought he was the one... He wasnt.. We have awesome strong fship..im very close with his new gf and he and my bf socialise without me..if both sides can acknowedge part in hurting and genuine motives for reconciliation then yes... No if one party has low self esteem and is possessive tho...
crazybestie101 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 i'm curious if anyone is on good terms with ex? my ex wants be friends in the future, but what will happen? -did you guys have a bad breakup, but then became cool down the line? -how long before you reconnected and were on good terms again? -did the friendship lead to something more? -how is it like being friends with them? I was his friend right after break up. yep , i accepted his offer since i didn't know about this forum. But it wasn't easy. Since i was looking for possible relation where as to him i was just his friend. Didnt took so long for fights to happen finally he deleted me off everywhere. He came to know that i still have feelings for him so he dropped everything from there. May be after few years after i move on , it can possible..
Damia Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Sometimes it depends on the players in the game. I was friendly with my XH for the first 6 mths but his GF/AP gets very jealous so he had to make a choice. Sadly he chose her over his children. I have no romantic feelings for him anymore so Iv just lost a friend but my children have lost a father
Leeway Harris Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I am best friends with an ex. We dated about seven years ago, for about a year. We broke up, didn't talk for a while, then she called me, said "Hey! I miss you! Let's be friends!" And since then we've gone through some pretty rough times, times when I didn't think the friendship would make it, but she's been the most loyal friend I've ever had. 1
Sugarkane Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 (edited) I don't know how anyone manages to be truly friends with an ex. I've only had an ex say that because they wanted sex. Everytime I've been dumped it was cruel and the dumper was vindictive with a rebound. The exception when I was the dumper, the guy was too hurt to be my friend. Experience has made me cynical because guys usually aren't honest about their intentions, when they say this. Edited December 5, 2013 by Sugarkane
nevergoodenough Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I am friendly with one of my ex that I dated for five years. The breakup was terrible, I told her I would send her naked pictures to her parents and she called the police on me. We didn't talk for a bit and I bumped into her at the store and we had a really good convo and spent some time together, but I started pushing hard to get her back and it didn't work. Eventually, I gave up on getting her back and I bumped into her on campus one day and said hi, she got me some meds when I was sick and she sent me an email saying how it was so great to see I was doing well. These days we are friendly, I sometimes go to her with relationship problems and she will try and give me her pov. I actually did this same thing to my most recent ex (amongst other worse things) and I reached out to her for advice on trying to repair the relationship and stuff. So we are friendly and it was really bad at one point, it has been a long road. It took more than a year to get on much better ground.
nevergoodenough Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I don't know how anyone manages to be truly friends with an ex. I've only had an ex say that because they wanted sex. Everytime I've been dumped it was cruel and the dumper was vindictive with a rebound. The exception when I was the dumper, the guy was too hurt to be my friend. Experience has made me cynical because guys usually aren't honest about their intentions, when they say this. Friends are people that spend time together and share things about their lives and such. To me its just friendly, like oh hey I hope that new job is going well. I hope things are okay, but there isn't the same time spent or anything like that. I couldn't ever do that at least. If my most recent ex had someone and asked me about it, I would be shattered like a man made of glass thrown at a wall.
radiodarcy Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Nope. We were acquaintances before we became intimate. But once we crossed that line he was anything but friendly: he was distant, cruel, and never really cared about me or my feelings. I ran into him back in April - - it had been three years since he dumped me. We smiled and chatted and acted like were were the old friends we never were. He emailed me saying it was good to see me and we should keep in touch. I responded in kind. But I haven't bothered to contact him since; nor has he contacted me. It was just one of those things people say but never really mean. 2
Haydn Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I am great friends with the mother of my daughter. We actually understood each other more once we split and with our daughter we never had choice to ignore each other. She has a partner and my daughter gets on fine with him. And when i have a partner its the same. Mind you my last partner was a head case and felt threatened by my daughter. But yes on the whole we are good friends. We do Christmas and birthdays together. 1
barky2 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I'm friends with all of my exs, it's not like we hangout all the time but better word is civil. Took many years after breakup to get to that point. Barky
d0nnivain Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I see one of my EX's every few months for work, then maybe I won't see him again for years. When we do bump into each other now we're civil. we'll make polite inquiries about families. I've seen photos of his kids. Mostly we talk about work or friends from grad school. This pattern started maybe 2 years after we broke up & has continued for 20 years. In that time I think we sent 1-2 e-mails because he needed a work related referral for something. We have never spoken on the phone. We broke up horribly for whatever that's worth but given the nature of our jobs we had to be professional when we encountered each other. Surprisingly, I do have a former FWB with whom I maintain an awesome friendship. It took a while but we still call & hangout; we hug & joke. My husband & him have become good friends. We double date with him & his fiancé.
OnTheRightPath Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I am good friends with my ex-husband and friends with all but one of my exbf's. With the ex-husband it wasn't great at first because it was a bad break-up, but we do have a child together so I believed it was important to try to stay friends for the sake of our child. I speak to him several times a week and we hang out sometimes. It is good for our child to see this. I believe children learn by example. We always remained a united front for our child. I really hate when I see parents using their children as pawns and against one another. One of the exes I had was extremely immature and possibly had some other mental health issues so that one remained NC. It does take time but I think it is possible to be friends with an ex as long as there are no expectations of reconciliation.
nerdlingZA Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 I only have 1 Ex and I don't wanna be friends with her. Rather not see her ever again.
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