TryingToFigureItOut Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 So I met this guy through a friend of mine about a month ago. We instantly connected and were talking the whole night and everyone could tell we were just drawn to each other. Turns out he had a gf of 6 months at the time but that they were in a really bad place and he wanted to break up with her. We ended up fooling around that night, but didn't have sex because I kept saying no and the entire time I felt horrible about it. I didn't hear from him until last night when he texted me randomly and we talked and it turns out he said that he was thinking of me the whole time, that he has a big crush on me, etc. I told him I can't do anything with him until him and his gf are done and he said it's gonna happen within the next few days because I guess she did something to cause drama between him and his family. He texted me this morning saying he broke up with her, that he didn't want to fool around with me for awhile because he doesn't want me to be his rebound in any way. As the day went on he kept going back and forth with that, saying he wanted to be with me, asking for photos, etc. He asked me what I wanted for longterm and he told me he wanted to casually date me and see where it goes, that he wasn't ready for a relationship right now which I told him I agree with it. He is just very sexually frustrated right now and keeps wanting to meet up to have sex but also says he wants to get to know me and the point of us casually dating each other is to feel each other out to see if it will lead to a relationship. And when I asked him if he would be okay with me fooling around with other guys while I dated him and he said he wouldn't be with another girl if he was with me and I said so that's exclusively dating, you know that will probably lead to something more serious and he said "well that's kind of the point" I know what the answer is, to casually date and have my guard up because he clearly is not ready for a relationship right now and obviously I wouldn't want to be with him now anyways. But is he full on playing me or what? He has been texting me literally ALL DAY.
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 you know what to do. you just don't want to because youre interested in it. do what you shall my friend, but chances are youre the typical rebound girl.
abby2 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 He seems like just using you for sex. Maybe he just want friends with benefit.
d0nnivain Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 It does seem like he wants sex but that doesn't mean you are automatically the rebound girl. A rebound is a placeholder -- someone who is only there because the person newly out of a relationship can't stand to be alone & wants any warm body to fill the gap. If you feel like you are just a gap filler or a bed-warmer, yes you are the rebound. If he wants you for all of your unique qualities, you are not the rebound.
Author TryingToFigureItOut Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Well we just had sex and now he wants to take me out on a date...and now I'm scared...
crederer Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Well we just had sex and now he wants to take me out on a date...and now I'm scared... Good job on following the advice.
skela Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Really too late now but I think you were used. He fooled around with you when he was still with his girlfriend so that tells you what he's like. Says he doesn't want you to be his rebound girl but asks for pics and sex. Anyway, see where things go.
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