jessiej Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 hey everyone, my birthday is tomorrow and i'm spending it completely alone. My ex and I had plans to go to montreal for my birthday for the weekend and we had it all planned and everything, but he dumped me two months ago after cheating on me and it was a terrible break up. I lost all of my friends because of the abusive relationship I was in and now i'm spending my 18th birthday completely alone. Basically i'm just ranting and looking for support. Birthdays use to be so much fun, and now it's my 18th tomorrow and I have absolutely no friends to spend it with, and i can't stop thinking about my ex and how I should be on vacation with him and enjoying my birthday and it's just really depressing. Any ideas on how to cope with spending my birthday alone and depressed?
crazybestie101 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 hey everyone, my birthday is tomorrow and i'm spending it completely alone. My ex and I had plans to go to montreal for my birthday for the weekend and we had it all planned and everything, but he dumped me two months ago after cheating on me and it was a terrible break up. I lost all of my friends because of the abusive relationship I was in and now i'm spending my 18th birthday completely alone. Basically i'm just ranting and looking for support. Birthdays use to be so much fun, and now it's my 18th tomorrow and I have absolutely no friends to spend it with, and i can't stop thinking about my ex and how I should be on vacation with him and enjoying my birthday and it's just really depressing. Any ideas on how to cope with spending my birthday alone and depressed? Hola , Happy Birthday girll!!! 18 birthday doesn't come that often. Forget about ex and live for moment. I wasted my last bday like that too though my ex texted me but i didnt wanted just like that. I wanted him to call me and say some thoughtful things but oh well. Try making new friends now its never too late. Be with family. You will be fine.
strive Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 go take that trip. or if you like, go to a different place. you'll see lots of things and meet lots of people. you might miss him and think of what it would be like if he was there, but that's okay. spending time alone and doing things alone will be the first step to help you let him go. after you've done a lot of things without him, you'll eventually realize that it isn't so bad (in fact it's even better) without him.
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 you first admit youll be spending it alone. that way you don't have to dread it when it happens. "Yup, im spending my birthday alone". say it. next, any friends? family? if not.. sometimes not avoiding reality is the best medicine. girl, its totally allowed to curl up in a ball by the tv under a blanket and cry cry cry. now a days we don't let ourselves cry anymore. but I say screw that. go ahead and cry. youre hurting, why hide it, right? right. youll be fine in time. let yourself feel the pain right now.
maiden555 Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 happy birthday!! Enjoy it as best you can and now is the time to treat yourself- maybe go on a shopping trip, get a massage, makeover, just indulge. Don't worry about the pressure to have such a great day...I hardly remember my 18th birthday. The day is just a day, and the timing really sucks for you but just honor yourself in some way. You will have much, much happier birthdays, I guarantee it
keepontruckin Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Go to Montreal anyways, without the idiot. Find someone else to go with (you must have at least one friend, no?) Drinking age in Quebec is 18. Get drunk, forget about aforementioned idiot. Profit!
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