Seeing the Ex in passing and they don't look good (well)

[Simon Phoenix]

My ex was an averige looking guy, nothing special about him, as far as the looks are concerned. As I said, I was more attracted to his "talk"..come to think of it, "that was quite an act" ..wow

 

He never said attraction was purely physical.

[crazybestie101]

You still had a physical attraction to him.

 

I actually took a class at 4 year University which had this topic. I did project on it . According to research women now a days are looking for everything in men which includes physical attraction. I even held public poll on it and first words that came out most women mouth was Physical attraction. It is equally very important as good character.

[Simon Phoenix]

I actually took a class at 4 year University which had this topic. I did project on it . According to research women now a days are looking for everything in men which includes physical attraction. I even held public poll on it and first words that came out most women mouth was Physical attraction. It is equally very important as good character.

 

Physical attraction is different for each person, which by your commentary in this thread you don't seem to grasp. Some girls like skinny guys, some girls like bigger guys, some girls like tall guys, some girls like shorter guys, some girls like dudes with a military buzzcut, some girls like guys with shaggy long hair. Physical attraction is a very generic term which is defined by each person's individual tastes. And it doesn't take into account a person who thinks attraction is 51 percent of what she sees in a guy or a woman who bases 96 percent of her attraction on what a guy looks like. Both have physical attractiveness as the most important quality, but there's a drastic difference in how much they weigh them.

[crazybestie101]

Physical attraction is different for each person, which by your commentary in this thread you don't seem to grasp. Some girls like skinny guys, some girls like bigger guys, some girls like tall guys, some girls like shorter guys, some girls like dudes with a military buzzcut, some girls like guys with shaggy long hair. Physical attraction is a very generic term which is defined by each person's individual tastes. And it doesn't take into account a person who thinks attraction is 51 percent of what she sees in a guy or a woman who bases 96 percent of her attraction on what a guy looks like. Both have physical attractiveness as the most important quality, but there's a drastic difference in how much they weigh them.

 

I agree what you say here. Originally , my post was about my ex and his taste. Clearly me and him fall for more fit people. and how he is with overweight women and so on.

Edited December 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[crazybestie101]

I sincerely apologize if my words have hurted any one's feelings. My posts were only directed toward my ex and and our story. Everyone has their own thinking. Everyone has right to choose what they like , everyone has right to be happy.

Edited December 6, 2013 by crazybestie101

[Zoe Lilith]

He never said attraction was purely physical.

 

I never said he did. I said he was average looking dude, there are many guys who look similar to him, similar hair style, similar walk, posture, etc...people loose their good looks anyway..I look at the indevidiuals from a different perspective.

Edited December 6, 2013 by Zoe Lilith
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[Haydn]

This is an interesting thread. My ex was so concerned about her looks. The more i said she was stunning the worse it became. She was convinced that i was every womans dream man (I wish!) Mind you ive always been physically attracted to each of my girlfriends and they were all different shapes and sizes. Dont know if i have a type as such. If i think about it they were all so vastly different. My ex of 5 months ago was a nut job though but she had the strongest pull over me! Slightly off thread, sorry. But if i saw her again not doubt she would toffed up to the nines as usual!!!

[avalokitesvara]

Ever seen an ex who at least seemed so beautiful to you when you were together, or even shortly after separation, looking not so good latter on?

 

 

I have seen a couple of pictures online via a mutual friend on facebook. She's not looking so good. I am not sure if it was in my minds eye that they looked good to me, or if it is the difference between pictures vs live action, or what but they just don't look too good. I mean, they look sickly. She was always thin but even in pictures from a year ago, six months ago, she

 

She's not my problem anymore but I almost wish I was seeing someone unequivocally healthy, and well, and feeing bad about not having them. Instead I feel sorry for them, wish them well, and hope that if I ever run across them way way down the line, they are looking well again.

 

 

Has anyone else had this experience?

 

Lol, I was lurking, saw your post and felt compelled to sign up and respond.

 

Warning:

Long post! Jump to the last paragraph for a quick recap.

 

So I dated this girl for four years, gave her everything, yada yada. Well right after our fourth anniversary she started getting shady. First she just ignkred me for a week before calling me crying to get back together. I told her I needed a few days, but ended up getting back with her.

 

Everything was ok for a couple months before she started going out all the time without me. She started to ignore my texts and calls like every few days then we'd see each other and she'd act normal. After a few Weeks of this I found signs that she was cheating.

 

I confronted her and got the coldest reaction I've ever gotten. She basically laughed in my face after confirming it so I told her to f--k herself and ended it.

 

for about a week I texted her a bunch of mean stuff then went NC. It only took me a few months to move on and start dating again. So a year and a half goes by. Then my grandma dies. I sent an email out to my contact list as its all family or family friends. Turns out I messaged my ex. She responded with a phone number.

 

So I texted her a few days later asking what was up, suggested coffee etc. She asked me to come over to her apartment and I did. Here's tne sad part:

 

Her "apartment" turned out to be a scuzzy motel room. I find out she kept partying after the cheating thing and got kicked out of her house. She'd been essentially homeless for,a year. She failed so many classes she got kicked out of college and she had no job.

 

The whole time shes smiling with tears held back. And she looks just awful. Unkempt and just gross. I know something weird is up but don't push her. Then I noticed condom wrappers, baggies, and a couple syringes half hidden behind her TV. Wtf?? then she says shes gotta get money for rent and asks me to leave so she can meet up with a friend.

 

I got home and did some snooping and sure enough I found a few very recent escort ads on with her pics, number and email addy.

 

I felt really sorry for her and sent her a message saying if she needed a ride or food I could help, but I wouldn't give her money. A few days ago I gave her a ride to a friends and her meth/crack pipe fell out of her pocket. I just handed it back to her and didnt say anything.

 

Lol so ltr, girl cheats, a year later she's a homeless meth/crackhead, heroin addict prostitute... When I was with her she smoked bud and drank. Sooo total fall from grace.

It's surreal to think I spent four years with this girl and loved her soooo much. Now I just fee sorry for her.

Edited August 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Sugarkane]

Wow this is a sad story. I'm sorry but I find it hard to feel bad for these people. Remember she chose to throw away your relationship and choose this over you.

Edited August 17, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator