LovetoLove28 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 My ex I guess and I are on what I thought was a break. Now I think I might just be naive. The email goes something like this. I think some space would be best for us at this time. We keep fighting over the same issues. Maybe some time apart would fix that , idk? Then goes on to say that I don't want to say this is the end for us but it is right now. What throws me is two things- I hope we can remain friends (really?) and work through this and have a chance to be together in the future. But proceeds to change his facebook status. This is a very sincere man & originally I took the email as very nicely put and now I'm like am I just stupid ??
Snipercatt Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I think he's ending the relationship and anything he said after that was simply said to sften the message. The facts are he ended the R and changed his FB status. I'd be thankful he told me. 1
Author LovetoLove28 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 I might add he has to see eventually.. I have ALL of his personal belongings.
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Taking a break from a relationship is juvenile way of breaking up. In essence it is the same thing & while on the "break" both parties are no longer in a relationship & therefore free to date whomever. The issues will not disappear by spending time apart but the fights will stop. A long term solution to the recurring issues requires you to be together to find a solution. Sometimes a solution is not possible & a break up is the only option. His statement / request / hope that you can remain friends is a breadcrumb of sorts. It's a thing people say when they don't want to end on nasty terms & are genuinely nice people who feel sad because the end of the relationship is causing pain to someone they used to love. It does not mean that you will ever have a warm close friendship; it means that you won't snarl & throw things if you bump into each other.
Snipercatt Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 I might add he has to see eventually.. I have ALL of his personal belongings. Please, don't hold out hope that meeting to return his things will give you closure, or chances to change things. It won't. Pack his things up and find a way for someone else to return them, or a courier service, and move on. Or throw them away, and move on. You say this is a very sincere man. Then take him at his word that things are over. Anything else will devolve badly, for you.
Balzac Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Pack up his stuff or arrange to be gone while he packs. "all" implies you were living together and he walked away?? Time too move on.
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