How do I tell a girl that I will not accept being in the "friend zone"?

[mrfreeman552]

Hey guys, I hope you can give me some advice.

 

I dated a girl for 2.5 months, and she acted as if she really liked me. I was certain that a relationship was developing between us. However yesterday she told me that she has a boyfriend. I am not the kind of guy who will accept being "just friends" with the woman I like. So I want to tell her that she has made her choice and I no longer want anything to do with her. My question is, how exactly do I go about doing this? She wants to hang out at my place next week, but I don't feel like spending more hours with her just to tell her that. I want to get it over with and not see her again.

 

Any help will be much appreciated

[elbe]

Just tell her your busy and stop talking to her.

[mrfreeman552]

Just tell her your busy and stop talking to her.

 

I thought about that, but I think it would be better if she knew exactly why I'm doing this, instead of simply "disappearing".

[organizedchaos]

I thought about that, but I think it would be better if she knew exactly why I'm doing this, instead of simply "disappearing".

 

No, why? She's lied to you, she has a boyfriend. Move on.

[Meadowgreen]

I thought about that, but I think it would be better if she knew exactly why I'm doing this, instead of simply "disappearing".

 

Quite the opposite actually. Falling off the face of the planet will make her wonder. Her ego will twinge to think she wasn't even worth a 'see ya later' email.

[d0nnivain]

Just tell her.

[AShogunNamedMarcus]

You tell her that if she asks why you aren't talking to her anymore.

 

Otherwise, just bow out. Your actions will speak for you.

[Buck Turgidson]

So I want to tell her that she has made her choice and I no longer want anything to do with her.

 

You say, "I'm sorry, I don't want to hang out this weekend. I don't believe in being just friends with women I'm into. You've made your choice, and I'm no longer interested in spending time with you."

[Ordinaryday]

Hey guys, I hope you can give me some advice.

 

I dated a girl for 2.5 months, and she acted as if she really liked me. I was certain that a relationship was developing between us. However yesterday she told me that she has a boyfriend. I am not the kind of guy who will accept being "just friends" with the woman I like. So I want to tell her that she has made her choice and I no longer want anything to do with her. My question is, how exactly do I go about doing this? She wants to hang out at my place next week, but I don't feel like spending more hours with her just to tell her that. I want to get it over with and not see her again.

 

Any help will be much appreciated

 

Try to do it politely without being pathetic. Simply say something like "hey, continuing to see you on a just friends basis when I like you would hurt me, and make things awkward between us. I think it's better if we simply cut all ties between us. you know how to contact me if you decide to give us another chance".

 

after telling her that ignore all contact from her unless the contact is to say "I made a mistake. let's give us a shot in a relationship"

[strive]

Just tell her you don't want to get tangled with someone who has a boyfriend. Besides if she decides to break if off with him you'll be the one to get blamed.