Crila16 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 My ex broke up with me in a heartless and cowardly way a month ago after 4 months of being together. Out of the blue...no legit reason. Anyway...he txt me wishing me a happy Thanksgiving, to which I replied, thx you too. He was supposed to come home to my parents with me. No other contact since. It's my birthday in a week and I've moved into anger phase. I know he's going to txt me on my birthday, wishing me a happy birthday. The loser was in the middle of planning my bday with my best friend at his place of business, and dumps me 5 days later...so now we're scrambling around trying to come up with other plans. Well...my question. When (and I know he will) txt's me to wish me happy birthday...should I ignore his txt completely or should I respond with "Thx, who is this?" I don't care if I'm being childish...i'm so angry right now.
Jules78 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 My ex broke up with me in a heartless and cowardly way a month ago after 4 months of being together. Out of the blue...no legit reason. Anyway...he txt me wishing me a happy Thanksgiving, to which I replied, thx you too. He was supposed to come home to my parents with me. No other contact since. It's my birthday in a week and I've moved into anger phase. I know he's going to txt me on my birthday, wishing me a happy birthday. The loser was in the middle of planning my bday with my best friend at his place of business, and dumps me 5 days later...so now we're scrambling around trying to come up with other plans. Well...my question. When (and I know he will) txt's me to wish me happy birthday...should I ignore his txt completely or should I respond with "Thx, who is this?" I don't care if I'm being childish...i'm so angry right now. *crickets* In other words, do not reply at all! Ever! 2
Meadowgreen Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 My ex broke up with me in a heartless and cowardly way a month ago after 4 months of being together. Out of the blue...no legit reason. Anyway...he txt me wishing me a happy Thanksgiving, to which I replied, thx you too. He was supposed to come home to my parents with me. No other contact since. It's my birthday in a week and I've moved into anger phase. I know he's going to txt me on my birthday, wishing me a happy birthday. The loser was in the middle of planning my bday with my best friend at his place of business, and dumps me 5 days later...so now we're scrambling around trying to come up with other plans. Well...my question. When (and I know he will) txt's me to wish me happy birthday...should I ignore his txt completely or should I respond with "Thx, who is this?" I don't care if I'm being childish...i'm so angry right now. ignore ignore ignore. Don't fall for his crappy little breadcrumbs. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Ignore is your best option but it's not always easy to do what's best. I'd probably send back something nasty like -- "Well it was shaping up to be one until you showed up"
TylerDurdenn Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Ignore is your best option but it's not always easy to do what's best. I'd probably send back something nasty like -- "Well it was shaping up to be one until you showed up" Why the hell would you say that? 2
reddragon588 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 (edited) The best response would be no response. Even assuming he contacts you. Cross that bridge when you come to it. Edited December 4, 2013 by reddragon588 1
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 If you are looking for a reaction, ignore. Men don't respond to words, they respond to NC. It speaks VOLUMMEEESSSS! 2
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Not really. NC isn't the only way to retain your power. Sometimes you can feel better if you snipe back. Not always but . . .since she's in the anger stage it wouldn't be the worst thing in all of breakup history. 1
reddragon588 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Not really. NC isn't the only way to retain your power. Sometimes you can feel better if you snipe back. Not always but . . .since she's in the anger stage it wouldn't be the worst thing in all of breakup history. Anger or not, there is no point in making yourself look foolish. 3
FML1980. Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 No, silence really is the better option. What you're saying when you snipe back, is "I still like you, and I'd take you back if you let me." Even if you're not indifferent, that's what silence projects. It's the most powerful response. So true..had to learn that the hard way. 2
Simon Phoenix Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Ignore is your best option but it's not always easy to do what's best. I'd probably send back something nasty like -- "Well it was shaping up to be one until you showed up" Yeah, that's a terrible idea. I'd stick with the ignoring. 1
organizedchaos Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Not really. NC isn't the only way to retain your power. Sometimes you can feel better if you snipe back. Not always but . . .since she's in the anger stage it wouldn't be the worst thing in all of breakup history. Nope, sorry. NC is the only way to retain the power. 3
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