epiclaydown Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I met this girl in a karaoke singing app. She lives 6 time zones away in a European country. We text and have talked on the phone. We usually communicate throughout the day, in the morning, at night, etc. I really like her and I think she likes me too. Neither of us are dating anyone or have shown interest in anyone locally. I'm not sure we'll ever meet. Even if we did, I don't think we could have a relationship since we're too far away. Neither of us has talked about moving or even meeting. She's really beautiful and I'm just average. We have exchanged pics but that's about it. No skype. She's also 15 years my junior not that age has something to do with it, but it could I suppose. Should I just call it quits and go on with my life or what? I can't continue knowing that we'll probably never meet. Please help me. Thank you.
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I'd continue your online interactions with her but make it clear that given the fact that it's unlikely you will ever meet, you can't / won't fall in love & this is not an exclusive romantic relationship.
Author epiclaydown Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Thanks Donnivain. I want to continue chatting with her, but I don't want to at the same time. Part of me thinks this whole thing is going to have a tragic ending and I'd rather just end it now and save the hassle. We have nice conversations and it's fun to get to know her and her culture, but it's just so difficult because we won't meet. Sometimes I think I'm falling for her! I know it sounds stupid. I'm driving myself crazy
d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Someday you may meet. Just guard your heart until that is a reality. Meanwhile find someone closer to you to date. It will lessen the longing for your OL pal.
Sweetgirl28 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Never say never! I had an online friendship with a guy who lived 8 time zones away from me. We met on a Facebook app back in 2008. It was a game with a chat function where you could chat with your opponent. He added me, and we continued chatting for years. I had a boyfriend at the time, and he had just broken up with his gf. As time passed, I broke up with my bf, and he would talk about his one-night-stands. At times, his messages became sexual but I made it clear to him that I wasn't interested in that. Fastforward to 4 years after we "met" on Facebook: I am in grad school about 1,000 miles away from him. My supervisor advised me to apply to a conference which I did. My proposal got accepted, and with the acceptance letter came the instructions on how to book my flight to .... HIS CITY! After chatting for 4 years (never on skype!), we finally met in person while I was there for a conference. It felt awkward to talk to him in the beginning, because I felt like he knew so much about me and vice versa. After a few awkward minutes, we finally started talking like we would do on FB. In fact, we ended up going on a date, and he made plans to visit me. When I left his city, I felt butterflies. However, the messaging back and forth cooled down in the weeks that followed. Then, about 4 months after my visit, he told me that he had feelings for me, and that he wished he had told me in person. He was afraid that there would be no future together because he had been unemployed for almost a year, and didn't have the money to come visit me. At that time, I was already dating someone else, and I had no interest in him as more than a friend anymore. Last thing I heard from him was a couple of months ago which was already long after our face-to-face meeting. Sorry for the long story but my point is that you shouldn't rule out anyone despite the distance. After all, there must be a reason why you like talking to this girl? 1
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