ShiningMoon Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I met this guy online who happens to be 6 years older than me. Normally, I wouldn't go for someone older, but as I am trying to get over someone, I just overlooked this aspect. He didn't lie about his relationship status and told me he had a girlfriend. They've been together for 4 years and it's pretty serious since she wants to have children with him. Great, because I'm not romantically interested in him. I was just looking for a rebound/hookup. I'm still hooked on a guy and I can't let go, so the last thing I wanna do is date someone else. Hence, I told this guy we're just going to be friends, it's just platonic. We met it was nice, he was friendly and all. I keep telling him we're just friends because I don't want to be romantically involved with him (despite this physical attraction) and I keep reminding him he's got a girlfriend. However, he now started flirting and telling me he's aroused whenever he sees me or my pictures. He's telling me he's not in love with his girlfriend anymore, and wouldn't mind trying something with me, that she doesn't have to know. Me on the other hand, I've made it clear many many times I'm not interested in a romantic way because he's not single. Plus, I don't want him to cheat on his girlfriend with me. It's a dangerous game he's playing and I'm unwillingly participating. The flirting is getting more intense and this situation is plain wrong. I believe in Karma and I don't want to be involved in this. Now, I cut him off but he keeps calling and checking me on FB and all. He just won't leave me alone. Any advice? Thanks!
Author ShiningMoon Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 I can't block his phone number because my phone doesn't have any software for this. Hence, he's been blowing my phone. I blocked him on FB but now he's checking me on my professional page which I can't delete for obvious reasons. I also work in media and he's been messaging me through this media platform which doesn't allow for blocking people because it's made through contact form/comment. He's literally Googled me and checked every single account I have. Not sure what to do here.
emva07 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 you say you don't want a romantic relationship with him......newsflash: neither does he (if you know what I mean ) If you truly want him out of your life, ignore him. Pretty simple. Multiply him by 0. 2
debshere Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Send him a message asking him to stop contacting you . If he continues and you feel threatened by him then get a restraining order. 2
Author ShiningMoon Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Send him a message asking him to stop contacting you . If he continues and you feel threatened by him then get a restraining order. I did. Many times actually, but he keeps coming back. In the country where I live, restraining orders are not that easy to get unfortunately. They're rarely granted. I just have to sort this solution on my own.
Author ShiningMoon Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 you say you don't want a romantic relationship with him......newsflash: neither does he (if you know what I mean ) If you truly want him out of your life, ignore him. Pretty simple. Multiply him by 0. I know he doesn't want a romantic relationship. I was just looking for a hookup initially but I don't want this man to cheat on his girlfriend. If he were single, I wouldn't mind hooking up, but he's taken already.
emva07 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I know he doesn't want a romantic relationship. I was just looking for a hookup initially but I don't want this man to cheat on his girlfriend. If he were single, I wouldn't mind hooking up, but he's taken already. so just keep up with the ignoring. I know him wearing you down is hard but just keep it up. Don't answer the phone when it's him. Ugh the nerve of these men. Threaten to tell his gf? Not that really does anything....most times gfs don't even care and take him back.
Author ShiningMoon Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 so just keep up with the ignoring. I know him wearing you down is hard but just keep it up. Don't answer the phone when it's him. Ugh the nerve of these men. Threaten to tell his gf? Not that really does anything....most times gfs don't even care and take him back. I don't know his girlfriend, but even his best friend is aware of the fact that he's flirting with me. She even told him I was pretty (yeah because she checked my online profile with her own). Like what the hell is wrong with these people?! I'll keep ignoring, hoping he'll just let go.
lifeunderground Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I find it hilarious that every girl on here claims they cannot block a guy. If you have an android or touch screen it's simple: blacklist Then there are sMs blocker apps to block the texts. If not CALL YOUR PHONE COMPANY SO THEY CAN BLOCK THE NUMBER Lol girls just must secretly love the attention or something. 1
Author ShiningMoon Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 I find it hilarious that every girl on here claims they cannot block a guy. If you have an android or touch screen it's simple: blacklist Then there are sMs blocker apps to block the texts. If not CALL YOUR PHONE COMPANY SO THEY CAN BLOCK THE NUMBER Lol girls just must secretly love the attention or something. I don't have an android or an Iphone. I have a Blackberry and as far as I know you can't block anyone on BB.
lifeunderground Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I don't have an android or an Iphone. I have a Blackberry and as far as I know you can't block anyone on BB. Have you called your phone company?
Author ShiningMoon Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Have you called your phone company? Yeah, they were like we can't deal with this, change your number.
FitChick Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Tell him you are dating someone you just met and want to see how it goes. Tell him if he wants to cheat on his girlfriend he should try ashleymadison.com which is for cheaters. I'm sure there are other cheater websites as well. Maybe send him a list and wish him luck.
LivingDeadGrl Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 Agree with above - say you're dating someone, or simply tell his girlfriend. I am sure you can find her easily. He is a POS anyway so who cares?
beach Posted December 5, 2013 Posted December 5, 2013 But you have willingly participated, yes? Simple answer - tell him next time he contacts you in any way, shape or form = you will contact his girlfriend and inform her what a douchebag he is/has been.
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