Sadguy33 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Not sure if you guys saw my thread but basically i was in a 5 year relationship, my ex cheated on me,dumped me, and 3 months later I am still a mess. September was no contact, then october we met a few times and had sex which got no where, and back to me being a mess. This girl is like heroin. she literally is killing me. I need to completely sever ties and i need your help and encouragement. I see what you people have done and i want to be there with you. Im goign to post here (if thats okay) daily or whenever I feel nuts with updates and venting. If this is the wrong forum let me know. wish me luck guys I said "goodbye" to her last night so it has been about 12 hours. This is the longest in 2 months, as sad as that is.
Author Sadguy33 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 by the way, does talking about her in this forum count as contact because i am thinking of her? like am i supposed literally stop thinking of her for no contact?
Mario79 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 No. I used to contemplate if it was detrimental to recovery to keep bringing her up, but not talking about it is ignoring the problem. I feel. The same with suffering for our partners is an extension of our feeling for them, having expectations in our head but the reality is that we cant talk or reach out to them. I will be repeating the same advice to anyone, this should a be call to action that your happiness depends on you and you alone, it was going to happen and now that it has, this may be your first steps towards enlightenment.
Author Sadguy33 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 so contact was made, but by her surprisingly. She contacted me cursing me off because i said goodbye to her the night before and that made her thnk of me? It didnt make much sense but i have to say i enjoy her being upset beause she misses me. But its not like she is talking about getting back together or sanything. 1 hour no contact
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