blue963 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Of the high highs....two days ago love you so much you deserve.....on and on and on...... and then today he's not having a good day and I couldnt meet him because my daughter is sick (also I am having doubts - so a good reason not to meet) To today, he's not in the mood to video when we chat. (wanting to same some prime words here) Today, I could very easy to walk away from all of this SH*& and make me the most important person in my life. Why is it that so many people feel justified in treating another like crap just because they are having a tough time and because things don't work out their way. I am so sick and tired of bending over backwards for everyone and getting the short end of the stick. Life moves on, time to forget it and live a life of my own. I have just as much crap to deal with as anyone else, sometimes more, and I dont disregard feelings of him in that way.
starryeyedsurprise Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Blue, you have the design to create your own life. Is all this nonsense truely worth it? Are his bad moods really necessary? and look how they affect you and your day. It is not worth it. Yes, normal couples fight, have troubles, need time outs, etc. but he is not yours. He belongs to someone else. I remember when my day would be gauged by his mood. Was he happy, sad or pissed in the morning. That's how my days would start and it was exhausting. Now that he is out of my life, I wake up to myself, my moods, my feelings and it feels like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I made his struggles my struggles and who the heck needs that when he has that person at home. The moment I decided to quit thinking about him and his needs is the second I got me back. Yes, it sucks and hurts, I am freshly out of my affair but god on days like this is feels exhilarating!!! Sending you hugs (( )) 5
Author blue963 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 yes he is so not worth it....and if these are the types of moods he gets into i wouldnt want to live with him. I have that in my H and I am so tired of it.
starryeyedsurprise Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 You know what else was not worth it....when he would get confused who he was talking to. There were times when he would tell me storie, and I could tell he was trying to sort out the lies that he was telling her and telling me. For example, we spent every Wednesday together since day 1, and I mean every Wednesday. One time, we were in the car, and he was saying how he spends every Wednesday with his son, and I should know that, and how he never has time for me on Wednesdays..... It clicked, he got confused and thought I was his "ex-fiance", because in fact Wednesday was our day, and seeing his son was his excuse to her. Ding Ding Ding!!!! Once a liar always a liar. Once there is drama there will alwasy be drama! 1
Author blue963 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 I have always been a devoted person, and it takes alot to make me give up....but I really think I am done. I have permitted and allowed this type of treatment in my relationships and i am disgusted with myself and the way men act. 1
starryeyedsurprise Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 It's not all men, its the ones we chose to have affairs with. There are sooooo many good men out there, I see it all the time with my family and friends. The question is - why do WE chose to stay in these toxic relationships? I am to a very devoted person, I don't give up, I stick around until I am trampeled on. Giving up is not in my blood, I am loyal, blah blah blah LOL. Yet, I, or should I say WE are settling when we know we should leave. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is leave, but is has the most positive and breathtaking outcome. Life is what you make of it, and being out of my affair I see a much brighter, happier, healthier and functional future. Release yourself from him, it will be hard, trust me on that....but there is light at the end of the tunnel. There are other things in life to focus on, not them, because God knows they do not feel the same as we do.
krazikat Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Of the high highs....two days ago love you so much you deserve.....on and on and on...... and then today he's not having a good day and I couldnt meet him because my daughter is sick (also I am having doubts - so a good reason not to meet) To today, he's not in the mood to video when we chat. (wanting to same some prime words here) Today, I could very easy to walk away from all of this SH*& and make me the most important person in my life. Why is it that so many people feel justified in treating another like crap just because they are having a tough time and because things don't work out their way. I am so sick and tired of bending over backwards for everyone and getting the short end of the stick. Life moves on, time to forget it and live a life of my own. I have just as much crap to deal with as anyone else, sometimes more, and I dont disregard feelings of him in that way. Okay, girl think about this a minute... " Why is it that so many people feel justified in treating another like crap just because they are having a tough time and because things don't work out their way." What do you call cheating on your spouse? This behavior is front and center with a cheater. It is so sad. The way people treat others is very indicative of what kind of person they are. Cheating is a sign of problems with the cheater, but often the AP and WS blame shift on the BS as the reason for the cheating. 100% my husband was an ass during his affair, no matter that he was still playing the role day in and day out. But ow had her rose colored glasses on. She saw what she wanted to see. But he was showing her his true colors, she ignored it. 1
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