After two months of the break up I start to miss her

[rov]

this is my story so far

 

Hello everyone . I dated my exgirlfriend for 9 months , 4 months ago she broke up with me because she was moving to another city , at the end she never went to that city and she begged me for another chance, so we got back together . She lived with her ​​dad but a few weeks ago her dad punched her hard with a belt because she got home late. Her father is a very hard person. She wanted to find an apartment to rent so she could avoid being abused physically by her father. Then she asked me to help him find an apartment to rent and told me if I could borrow her 400 dls to pay the first rent. Then she would search for a job and she would pay what I borrowed to her and with the earnings from her work she would pay the rent´s apartment.

 

I agreed to borrow her the money. I was absent in my work for two days trying to help her find an apartment, we did not found anything for that price .. Then she tells me that she wants to rent something more expensive and I replied that that was not possible because she would not be able to pay for it with the money she earns from her work, she earns about $ 400 a month . From there she her only choice was to go to live to with the family of her ex because they were a family to her. A few days ago she sent a message saying that she was living with her ex´s family suddenly the next day she sent me an email saying that she is ending our relationship because I did not supported her as she expected trying to find a solution to her problem. She started to say that i disappointed her and that I was the only person that could save her. I think that her real intentions were that she wanted me to pay the 400 dollar monthly rent, which I think is an abuse. I only earn 1200 dollars a month, that would almost half of my earnings.

 

Then I decided to call her from the hospital because my dad was extremely sick and was dying that day and we took him immediately to the hospital.We took him to emergencies. So when I called her she started to tell me that she was disappointed with me, that she expected more of me and that i couldn't give her that, that she expected me to completely solve her problem. I told her that my dad had been sick since the last two weeks and I was worried of his health, I told her that I did what i could with her situation, I was absent in my work for two days to help her find an apartment, I told her that I agreed to pay the first rent for her meanwhile she found a job, so that it was unfair to say that I did nothing. So she told me that she wanted to end the relationship and I said that was ok and hang the phone

 

3 hours later she sends me a text where she asks how my dad was I told her that he was starting to get better, I acted with indifference with he. Then in the afternoon I received more messages from her asking what was I doing. The next day she calls me saying that if I need something I can count with her. Again, yesterday she sends me a text in the morning wishing me a great day and asking me how my dad was, in the afternoon she sends me another text asking me what was i doing. Why does she do this?, she ends things with me and still keeps texting me???

 

When we were together she didn't came to my birthday party a month ago because she said that her father would not let her arrive home late. At the next day of my birthday I saw her and she only spent with me 3 hours because she went for a coffee with a friend of hers, I was sad about this, she didn't even spent the whole day with me. There are times where I did not see her in two weeks and her excuses were that she had lots of homework. Also, sometimes when she went to a trip, there were times where she didn't even texted me in a week. She gave little to this relationship but she wants me to give everything, thats unfair.

 

Now she tells me that she wants to see me in person see to how Im doing with my life and know that Im good with what happened with my dad etc. She says that I can always count on her as friend. She says that I'm someone very special for her and that we can be friends

 

What kind of love is this?, I did everything i could for her but she justs asked too much, she asked me to borrow her money many times and I did it. And know because I didn't help her pay a 400 dollar rent a month she dumps me. In her breakup mail that she sent me, she puts herself as the victim. Now Im a little confused if I did wrong in not giving her the money of the rent. what do you think.

 

Why would she want to see me in person to know if Im good?, she also told me in her text messages from the other they that she wants to come to my guitar concert in my university, and i was like ?

 

 

So far, this two months after the breakup I have been alright and feeling well, I have dated two girls only once but nothing important happened, I really felt good alone again but a few days I just started to miss her, she contacts me at least once a week to see how I'm doing once a week and insists in being friends with me. Is it normal that I was emotionally perfect after the breakup and now a few days ago I started to miss her and been thinking of her?

Edited December 4, 2013 by rov

[hestheone66]

She sounds like a user. Not sure how old you are of if you had sex with her. She is manipulative and not worth anything. Yes you are feeling lonely and if you are only starting to miss her after 2 months its a sign neither of you were in love.

Stay away she is bad news

[rov]

Today after a week and a half of no contact she sends me a text saying that the other day she ate my favorite soup at california pizza and that she remembered me, damn why does she do this?

[rov]

She insisted that she wanted to come to the forest with me and i accepted, I treated her like a friend. But she started to say to me that she wants to learn guitar and she wants me to teach her to play, I have been playing guitar for 12 years, she said that she wants to be friends because we know each other very well and I told her that friendship cannot be forced, that we will see. Then she asked me if I was dating someone and i told her that I dated two girls but nothing important happened and she told me that she dated a guy from her new job but it didn't go further. Then she asked me if she was the love of my life and I told her that I don't know and told her that why did she asked those weird questions and she said that she wanted to know if she had been the love of someone´s life. When I said goodbye to her she tells me that she wants me to send her a tex telling her that I arrived safe home. Not even 20 minuted went by and she send a text telling me to not forget to tell her that I arrived safe at home. DAMN, what does she want from me, to much confusion in those questions and attitudes from her :S

[Shaine]

She is just using you. She asked you if she's the love of your lifewhen she broke up with you? Wow. That is just selfish.