CODEG Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 (edited) im not going to go into full detail i just honestly want help. It was bassicaly the "she was the one" type stories where it was perfect(im just going to summarize what happened). high school sweethearts now shes living on campus and she fell for another guy after i broke up with her. (my fault) this was the first time ive done it but i really meant for a break. We've broken up multiple times but she's was always the one who acted on emotion while i was the more logical person well. She got a rebound guy and when she told me i became the emotional one. I went for nc for about a week then she txted me saying i dont want you to feel hurt and all that stuff like i still care and love you. I mistook it for her wanting to get back with me. I called her we talked and i had the most rude awakening. She bassically was happy without me and she wants to live her campus life. Im a guy with strong morals. Sex with only one person, staying fit for my sport and other things while she changed and became all about the party life. I was so broken but i begged her to see me one last time. She agreed, i was still so sad i talked to a friend bout it and they talked me out of seeing her so i cancelled. Im sorry if the story isnt very clear guys im just so heartbroken and i try to make sure no one i know, knows i post on forums. i've been told many times she's on the wrong but my friends can be biased but im the least biased person when it comes to judging and i know im right. there's just so much more i havnt said but please respect the fact i just cant say it all. Im now planning for nc throughout my christmas break and my school sem. Any advice on what to do if she txts me to ask how im doing or do i just completely ignore. when my friends say im the one thats right it made me hate her a bit which made me feel more happy bout myself but there are still moments where i feel sad. How long will i feel like this? Im still in disbeleif that she's throwing it all away too..our first everything was together and i only gave out because i felt like she was the one. I know i sound like such an ass but i cant go with a girl who's given out already even now that im not a virgin.. That might stop me from getting any girl but i just cant help it, id rather be alone than have to think about how any girl im with has had sex with another. Im a mess but at times im great but then a mess, its a rollercoaster ride and the exams and final papers due dont help. I've partied myself out in highschool, i dont drink much anymore, only two times a year and i dont go clubbing its just not my thing. Im socially awkward and have trouble talking to people even though everyone has told me im one of the best looking guys and i dont disagree, my ex taught me to make an effort into looking good and i do now but its not enough that i get any girls to talk to me randomly. I guess i also feel like since she was the only one who really understood me , no ome else could. Edited December 4, 2013 by CODEG
Philosoraptor Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 A break is a break-up, there is no difference. She is doing what she needs to do to handle and move on from the breakup, rebounding is one option that people take. She's going to get under someone else to help her get over you. She's not throwing it all away though, you ended things, whether temporary or not, and she used that time and decided she didn't want to continue your relationship. No need to play the victim here. I'm sure you had valid reasons to end it and you need to learn to live and stand by the choices you make. Remember that the man you were with her made that choice, not this regretful one now. Right now you'd be best to take care of yourself and not worry about her. If contacting her brings you pain, don't do it. It's as simple as that. If it doesn't bring positive things to your life and your mind to know what she is up to, then there is no need to torture yourself with that knowledge. 1
Author CODEG Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 A break is a break-up, there is no difference. She is doing what she needs to do to handle and move on from the breakup, rebounding is one option that people take. She's going to get under someone else to help her get over you. She's not throwing it all away though, you ended things, whether temporary or not, and she used that time and decided she didn't want to continue your relationship. No need to play the victim here. I'm sure you had valid reasons to end it and you need to learn to live and stand by the choices you make. Remember that the man you were with her made that choice, not this regretful one now. Right now you'd be best to take care of yourself and not worry about her. If contacting her brings you pain, don't do it. It's as simple as that. If it doesn't bring positive things to your life and your mind to know what she is up to, then there is no need to torture yourself with that knowledge. I dont mean to play the victim and i wish i could say more but i really cant. Today was the first time i broke the code and i regret it so much. It made me sound unattractive now that i think of it. My friend had to say that she didnt deserve a goodbye so i shouldnt see her and thatsbwhy i canceled. I'm all for NC now i learned my lesson. Ive been lurking this forum ever since then and decided that i hit my breaking point and had to post. I appreciate the comment i think as of right now im still a bit vulnerable to criticism but you're probably right. My judgement was horrible today and still is.
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