KaylaBayla Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 (edited) Me & my ex boyfriend broke up about two months ago. We were together for about 3yrs on and off. We agreed to be best friends but that's not working out how I thought. He still stays the night (he's here now as I'm typing this) we still have sex, txt, call each other and etc. I recently added him to my phone line but :(only to find out he's talking to a girl he cheated on me with while away at school! We said we would get back together one day but idk.. I do know I love him with everything in me and I really wanna get back with him. Someone help me plz :( Edited December 4, 2013 by KaylaBayla Forgot something
RDawg Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 You should try and be more experimental in the bedroom. Men love that.
Author KaylaBayla Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Mennnn listen I'm a good girlfriend I do whatever he ask and more. Material things, food, clothes, money he gets it all
chris21422 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 haha that man must be the luckiest guy on earth cause he has the priviledge to sleep with you with having no commitment at all. plus he can talk/date any girls when he wants. plus your paying for his phone and buying him things? If i read that right.. lol Did you ever think that he's just using you? not to be mean but stay away from him if you love yourself. Your blinded by love my friend. 2
headinthecloud Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 He doesn't love you, Kayla. He is just using you because you're letting him. It the hardest thing to hear but if you want to be happy you must kick him to the curb. He is disrespecting you badly. 2
Author KaylaBayla Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Nah. He pays his portion of the bill. I'm not buying him anything now of course because we're not together I still make sure he eats and is ok though. I really dnt know like I wanna cry everyday but I hold it in
miffymars Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Me & my ex boyfriend broke up about two months ago. We were together for about 3yrs on and off. We agreed to be best friends but that's not working out how I thought. He still stays the night (he's here now as I'm typing this) we still have sex, txt, call each other and etc. I recently added him to my phone line but :(only to find out he's talking to a girl he cheated on me with while away at school! We said we would get back together one day but idk.. I do know I love him with everything in me and I really wanna get back with him. Someone help me plz :( Hi Kayla, sorry about your current situation. I know how you feel as I'm going through a breakup myself. Being best friends after a break up is definitely not a good idea. I know you may still love them and I know its really hard because this is someone you shared 3 years with. But in truth you are allowing him to take advantage of you. You may not want to hear this but you're showing him that you don't value yourself by letting him have what he wants when he doesn't feel obligated to give you what you want. Which is selfish of him and shows how much he doesn't have respect for you. Allowing him to be in your life in this manner is very toxic and only prolonging your time to recover. He is already showing you he doesn't love you by talking to another girl! Also any talks about getting back together one day are just futile. Guys like him remind me of my ex, they are selfish and cannot commit and will never be able to give you what you deserve. Please do yourself a favor and cut him out of your life be strong and go strict No Contact. This guy isn't worth it. Trust me. You deserve better!
headinthecloud Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Nah. He pays his portion of the bill. I'm not buying him anything now of course because we're not together I still make sure he eats and is ok though. I really dnt know like I wanna cry everyday but I hold it in You are not his mother. It is not your responsibility to take care of him. Support is about being there for one another emotionally, financial support is sometimes necessary on occasion (depends on RS). Do you feel supported when he talks to other women and shares himself? I dint think so. So why are you being his doormat? Best friends don't use each other. That's not a healthy RS. 1
Author KaylaBayla Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 I can go a whole day without talking to him but when it's time to go to sleep I feel like I cnt sleep without him. I been sleeping with him for so long tht I cnt sleep alone anymore and when I do which is once in a blue I'm tossing and turning all night checking my phone. I and wait I forgot his name is tatted on my body. I feel so stupid now tht I really sit and talk and let it all out
chris21422 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I needed to ask this.. How old are you? I can go a whole day without talking to him but when it's time to go to sleep I feel like I cnt sleep without him. I been sleeping with him for so long tht I cnt sleep alone anymore and when I do which is once in a blue I'm tossing and turning all night checking my phone. I and wait I forgot his name is tatted on my body. I feel so stupid now tht I really sit and talk and let it all out
Author KaylaBayla Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 I'm 20, I know I'm young and have a whole life ahead of me and most likely is going to have way more relationships until I find the one
Author KaylaBayla Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Sad and all hurt the most but, I'm going to start after he leaves tomorrow I'll definitely keep you all updated. I'm not ready but....hey
headinthecloud Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 (edited) I'm 20, I know I'm young and have a whole life ahead of me and most likely is going to have way more relationships until I find the one Then learn from this experience and try not to make the same mistakes. You're codependent on him. That's not healthy. ...and you can sleep alone, you just dont want to face reality. It's part of the process of recovering from a BU. The pain is awful but it does go away. Be strong. This will pass. Edited December 4, 2013 by headinthecloud
Simplysimon Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Sad and all hurt the most but, I'm going to start after he leaves tomorrow I'll definitely keep you all updated. I'm not ready but....hey Men try to keep their former girl friends on hand for sex, therapy, ease of the break up. Wise up and get rid now. You deserve better, your not a dog don't be treated like one.
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