mtnbiker3000 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Day in day out by myself. No one to share my life with. Sitting in my apartment... alone. So far removed from where I was just a short while ago.
RDawg Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Oh please man. You've been doing so well, posting on here, giving all these people great advice and leading by example - and now this? We are all alone, no one will ever love us, we are going all going to die, they are going to stick you in the dirt and your body is going to rot. Get it? So please cheer up already. 3
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Oh please man. You've been doing so well, posting on here, giving all these people great advice and leading by example - and now this? We are all alone, no one will ever love us, we are going all going to die, they are going to stick you in the dirt and your body is going to rot. Get it? So please cheer up already. Hahahahaha!! You're right Just this time of year is rough and taking it's toll. Today was really ****ty for some reason. 1
Haydn Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Mate i have those days too. Nothing seems right. It will pass. Keep posting great advice!Take care. 1
Vinsanity1307 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Hey man rough night over here too..Must be that kind of night. Hit the gym or something I think i may need to do so right now..... Just know I am there with ya man
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Just kinda overwhelmed today. All day. Work sucked. No motivation to hit the gym. Just a crappy day. I will admit that these have been less and less, but today was a tough one. Maybe because I am approaching a year since the BU and still struggling. I dunno... Well, back at it tomorrow I guess
RDawg Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 @mtnbiker3000: what style of riding do you like? Cross country or more freeride/ downhill? I like the downhill vibe. We have many great trails where I stay and before my BU I was really into my cycling, I was commuting to work on my bike and riding trails every weekend, I must get back into it, it is so therapeutic. If you want some cheering up google the youtube video "I only ride park" - it's hilarious!
headinthecloud Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 *Group hug for mtnbiker3000* You know better than all of us that these days come and go. Just don't lay down! Life is beautiful. Happiness is a choice. 1
chris21422 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Man 120 bucks for 1 hour and you won't be alone for the night.. if you know what I'm saying haha 2
Haydn Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Cheap Chris mate, cheap. Man 120 bucks for 1 hour and you won't be alone for the night.. if you know what I'm saying haha
iouaname Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Fill the lonely time with something you enjoy! Whenever I'm feeling lonely I try to do Yoga, take a bath, read a book, exercise or watch something I love. 'Alone' activities that I enjoy!
cavalier99 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Hahahahaha!! You're right Just this time of year is rough and taking it's toll. Today was really ****ty for some reason. You are taking quite a bit to recovery. hmmmon the other hand you kept hope alive for quite a while with contact. How many months of NC?? Im going to miss you when your over it. Cav
KelC411 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Sorry to hear this. I feel the same way. And the contrast between what was and what is is excruciating. Hang in there.
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 How's your support circle? Friends etc.? Even though I go to bed alone every night I never really feel lonely because I make sure to spend loads of time with my best friends, get out and about a lot. It's never good to rely on getting all of your social time from a partner, because once they're gone you'll feel isolated. 1
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I think it's perfectly okay to feel this way, even for men. Don't feel like you have to put on the man cape and pretend to be strong, these feelings override that sometimes. Thing about loneliness is you can be in a room full of people and still feel alone. Hang in there... “Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. An intelligent, sensitive person is the exception, the very great exception. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you'll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let the cattle stand in your way.”
LostConfused123 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Hey, I can totally relate! I have been doing all the "right" things. Working hard, making new friends, going out, being nice to myself (girly stuff, nails, hair etc) rekindling bold friendships, destroyed all evidence of HIM! But at the end of the day I feel such a deep void. Just a few short months ago I was in such a different place. I couldn't sleep when I first met him because no dream at that time was better than reality. Now I welcome sleep for the escape. Hope you're feeling better. I personally look forward to your posts and advice. You're kinda like the LS YODA!!! ((hugs)) 1
Bandito Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 it's a nice day out here in Nor Cal, you should bike. 2
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Thanks to all those who responded. I really appreciate it!! It's easy for me to see other peoples problems and offer up advice, but extremely difficult to apply it to my own situation. And, the wave finally knocked me down and I just needed to vent... @mtnbiker3000: what style of riding do you like? Cross country or more freeride/ downhill? X-country. The one positive of where I now live is epic mountain biking. Literally hundreds of trails and all different kinds of terrain. It's the one ray of sunshine here You are taking quite a bit to recovery. hmmmon the other hand you kept hope alive for quite a while with contact. How many months of NC?? Im going to miss you when your over it. Cav Dated 3 years Lived together 3 years Engaged 18 months BU last January/Feb NC since March 17 I'm starting to become concerned at my inability to completely move past this. I've been stuck in the same spot for quite a while. Stuck in this same town which I don't like. Stuck in my crappy 1 bed apartment which I hate. Stuck at my same job which I don't like. Stuck doing the same things which are boring. And stuck in this heartbreak recovery (Back and forth between various stages). Have dated, but nothing seemed to stick. And, I long for the day when all you LS'ers will be a distant memory. You know what I mean How's your support circle? Friends etc.? Even though I go to bed alone every night I never really feel lonely because I make sure to spend loads of time with my best friends, get out and about a lot. It's never good to rely on getting all of your social time from a partner, because once they're gone you'll feel isolated. Support circle is non-existent. Moved to a small town with and for my ex and left everything I knew 250 miles away. We did everything together. What a mistake that was Today seems better and I will just get back to my routine and let time do it's thing I guess... 1
JDPT Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Mtn- it appears that we are riding the same wave here. It's been 7 months post BU for me and it appears that I'm dealing with issues that I thought were out to rest. I've recently hurt my MCL so I'm limited to not exert as much energy and perhaps still anger as I used to. Let's just take things for what they are and walk away from this dark cloud. There is hope. 2
reddragon588 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 This concept helped me. We can't help if we are alone. But being lonely is our choice.
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