Gullen Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I met her way back during my sophomore year of HS. I was 15 then (now I'm 23) and that was first time I've ever gone out on a date. It was at that very same moment, I knew I wanted to be with her only. As dumb as it sounds, at the age of 16 I started designing a house during graphics class and would continue doing so over the years. It was what I imagine we would live at someday. Fast-forward to last year: Out of nowhere, she demands that we cease contact, how she's doesn't love me anymore and how the relationship has gotten stale. Here I am with my house project done after years of hard work and imagination but not the woman I wanted to be with. We go to the same college and she ignores me. I can't explain what I did wrong. We saw each other just the other day, she looked quickly at me and turned the other way. How can someone just move on like that?
Author Gullen Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 Sometimes I keep imagining this was just a bad dream, that I wake up and there she's in my life again but nope. It's real, she's gone and I'm still missing her like crazy while she has moved on and ignores me. Why is she doing this to me? I have never cheated on her. I can't even look at my house project anymore. I feel I did all that work for nothing.Though it's been a year later since the sudden break up, to me it feels as if it was yesterday. Sadly, she was my first.
Salvatore85 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I'm not going to sugarcoat this or beat around the bush, the only reason I can think of that she would go this cold and enforce it to such a degree is either she found someone else or she cheated and she's far too embarrassed to face you so she's making it your fault so she doesn't have to own up too it... Sorry man, it's going to be rough but you gotta keep your head up.
cavalier99 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Sorry your hurting. Anyway its better that they ignore your than bombard you with breadcrumbs and mixed signal. Youll recover quicker. NC all the way! Cav
BOREDouttaMymind Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 ya you ran that relationship like a 100 meter dash instead of a marathon. wayyyy to quick. a house? no don't do that. youre still young, and youll learn, but try to learn to take your time. don't look to the future with one girl just yet. it freaks them out.
Author Gullen Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 I'm not going to sugarcoat this or beat around the bush, the only reason I can think of that she would go this cold and enforce it to such a degree is either she found someone else or she cheated and she's far too embarrassed to face you so she's making it your fault so she doesn't have to own up too it... Sorry man, it's going to be rough but you gotta keep your head up.If she cheated or found another guy, I'd have rather have her tell me in my face than disappear just like that. At least I would then know it had nothing to do with me and wouldn't need to waste further time wondering what happened, where I went wrong, etc.
Author Gullen Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 ya you ran that relationship like a 100 meter dash instead of a marathon. wayyyy to quick. a house? no don't do that. youre still young, and youll learn, but try to learn to take your time. don't look to the future with one girl just yet. it freaks them out.I know it might have been too early but that's how I truly felt about her. I knew it was love at that age and still love her till this day. Sadly, she's not going to come back. Though sometimes I wish there was some hope that we'll get back together and she'll realize what she just threw away. But I can't be waiting for years either. It's hard to forget her when I still have to see her ignoring me at college.
amaysngrace Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 If she cheated or found another guy, I'd have rather have her tell me in my face than disappear just like that. At least I would then know it had nothing to do with me and wouldn't need to waste further time wondering what happened, where I went wrong, etc. She didn't necessarily cheat but she did outgrow you. It happens. And you being like a moany crybaby could be a reason why. You didn't plan that house for her only...you planned it mostly for you because drawing up plans is what interested you. Stop looking for her on campus with your sad puppy dog eyes. That's very unattractive to not only her but to any other girl that might be looking. Go to a gym. Get in shape. Work on the house plans. Or trash it and start over. Yeah...maybe do that first. Then go to the gym. 1
Logan oO Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I know it might have been too early but that's how I truly felt about her. I knew it was love at that age and still love her till this day. Sadly, she's not going to come back. Though sometimes I wish there was some hope that we'll get back together and she'll realize what she just threw away. But I can't be waiting for years either. It's hard to forget her when I still have to see her ignoring me at college. Sadly Gullen, some women (and i'm guessing men do the same too) can just switch off overnight because of some mental issues. Other times it's simply that they have thought long and hard about the relationship and rather than doing the sodding adult thing and talking about it when it first bothered them, they go through the whole 'mourning' the death of the relationship whilst with you. So when it comes to dumping you, they don't feel any loss as they already dealt with that in the relationship. I'm not going to tell you what you should do or not do. We are all here because of it all going wrong for us. We can only share our experiences and hope they help someone else avoid the same problems. 1
RDawg Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Logan sums it up very nicely. @Gullen: don't give up on your dream to design and build that house, but do it for yourself. You have learnt a valuable lesson: women will only cause you confusion and pain and it is best to avoid them at all costs. Don't look at them, don't talk to them and for heavens sake please don't fantasize about them.
sun1972 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 when it happens suddenly, i believe its because the partner has been slowly 'checking out' for some time. It may seem sudden, but she may have been considering this for months..sorry 1
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