On and Off relationships..

[JoeSmith12]

I was in an on and off relationship with this girl for over a year. We had our ups and downs as everyone and when it was good it was really good. Well every once in a while she flakes out and breaks up with me because she doesn't know what she wants and I think she thinks the grass is always greener on the other side. This last recent time she broke up with me I did not respond to any of her text messages asking if I was out or a happy birthday or anything. Then on a Friday night she calls me at 12:30amish and I didn't answer it. The next night I texted her and said you called last night? Her reply was that she was calling for me to get my stuff? But who calls someone at 12:30 on a Friday to remind them to get their stuff. Well I told her that I wasn't ready to see her and I'll have someone get it and she freaked out. Well the next day my friend was playing his sport a few blocks away from her and seeing as I lived 20 minutes outside the city I tried to convince myself to go get my stuff and get it over with. I finally do and she lies to me saying she's at breakfast. So I wait and she brings another dude out of her apartment and drives him home. I get my stuff when she comes back and find a box of condoms on her night stand and I tell her to never contact me again. I go NC and it's been three extremely hard weeks as I still really care and love this girl and she knows that. So this past weekend she calls me and asks for a ride home after a night of drinking and I had been out myself and I tell her I can't and hangup the phone. She calls continuously and I say the same thing. Normally I would be willing to help anyone out especially her. Finally I start to fall asleep and it's 4:30am, she calls me 3 times and a text. Then I pickup on the next one and talk to her for a couple minutes and say I have to go. She calls another 4 times until I pickup and I then talk to her for an hour and she asks me to come over please. I tell her I don't think that's a good idea. I then explain to her how she made me feel during this relationship and how would she feel if I had done it to her. She was quiet and said she was just thinking. I asked her why she slept with that guy although it wasn't my business, and she said she did it to try and get over me. So after the long hour she asks how I am doing with school, the new move and everything else. She also said that those guys were jerks. She is supposed to go home in December but then tells me she renewed her lease for another six months. I didn't know what to think at that point as a flush of emotions ran through me and I just said I had to go to sleep. I still love this girl after everything she did to me/I let happen. I am just hoping she will change and I am unsure of what I need to do, I almost drove to her house today and told her to put her ego aside and just own up to what she's done and apologize for how she ended it in the first place (she was all over guys at a party she invited me and them to and said some extremely nasty things to me and broke up with me). Although I understand she needs to be the one that needs to change I have a burning desire to show her and help her with it. Any advice would be helpful...thank you

[robbysurfs]

Yo bro I been there done that and it is a ugly road ahead. Read some of my other posts and see if you can identify. She just wants her cake and eat it to she is a typical selfish person. Think about it ..it really is not nice and she isnt either. in my experience she is your ex for a reason and believe me there will be another great love in your life. And when she is done with you she will end it again and be out of your life. Think about this pros/cons what do you really like about her or do you just like how she makes you feel? Is it really about getting back with her or you just avoiding feeling crappy. Because what you said about her thus far is not a chick you want around sounds like drama...just some food for thought and no disrespect just calling it like I see it.