iouaname Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 So, my ex and I broke up about a year ago. I'm fine now. I was devastated for a long time but I'm doing well now. The breakup was nasty. He was mean, I was crazy, and then vice-versa. Anyway, ever since September of this year he has been strangely nice to me. I had stopped contacting him and about 3-4 times a month he would reach out just to chat. Two days ago, he heard there was an accident in my area and called to check on me. All of this after he told me a few months prior that he didn't care if we were friends, only was with me/agreed to be friends with me because of my depression, etc. So I'm just curious as to why you guys think, all of the sudden, that he's trying to be friends with me again? I don't believe he has any intentions of getting back together so it's very strange.
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 The reasons could be many... Ease of guilt. Checking on his control of you. Who cares? Cut all contact with him. You said your doing fine now, but have you moved on? 2
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 So I'm just curious as to why you guys think, all of the sudden, that he's trying to be friends with me again? I don't believe he has any intentions of getting back together so it's very strange. I'd say, at the very least, that he wants in your pants. 2
Author iouaname Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 that's actually not likely, considering we're pretty far apart. And mountain - the whole 'who cares, go NC' isn't going to happen at this point. I wouldn't say I'm moved on in the sense that I'm interested in seeing anyone, but he no longer negatively (or positively for that matter) effects my mood or life. This is more curiosity.
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 but he no longer negatively (or positively for that matter) effects my mood or life. This is more curiosity. OK... It just seems if you're on here asking about it, it still a thorn in your side 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 OK... It just seems if you're on here asking about it, it still a thorn in your side So the choice becomes: Does she stick with the thorn in her side, or let him even nearer, and feel it on her lower back in the morning? 1
Author iouaname Posted December 5, 2013 Author Posted December 5, 2013 OK... It just seems if you're on here asking about it, it still a thorn in your side Like I said, it's curiosity. I've never been in a situation where someone told me that they didn't want to be friends, etc. and then came back all of the sudden trying to make an effort. I'm really just curious as to why someone might do that, ESPECIALLY when getting back together isn't an option? It's strange. I do believe that No Contact works and is important (to some extent), but I'm looking around at the threads and there are a lot of people here who went through breakups around the same time I did, went NC, and are still here posting frequently so I feel like I've made the right choice on how to handle it for myself.
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