liltipper Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I don't want to reiterate too much of a previous thread. I lost touch with a girl, deleted my f/b (where we communicated electronically), and I rarely see her around school anymore. I saw her a couple times over the past 2 months. I approached because I just wanted to be friendly and say 'hi'. She was standoffish, avoiding me. Possibly very shy and busy. I made the mistake of sending a couple not very well worded messages on f/b even though she's no longer in my new contact list (creepy?)... I felt awkward sending them and maybe they were a little selfish. I sent the most awkward note to say I liked getting to know her as a friend. Nothing wrong with that, but think expanded definition for a friend... that's bad. I do like her. I have a disability and I'm thinking she got a bad impression of me... I actually feel she's a bit superficial. I was thinking of sending a more clear, more personable and friendly note to her business email, showing that I'm genuinely interested in how she is. Is that too creepy? Just writing this sounds creepy. Wow... I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has tried to reconnect with someone just out of appropriate contact?
nescafe1982 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Did she respond to your other notes to her (however awkward they were)? If not, then it's time to back off. It sucks, but we can't make everyone like us. Sometimes people just aren't into it. But the good news is that if you're feeling up to it, you can practice your friend-making skills easily around campus! College (I'm assuming you're in college, maybe HS?) is wonderful that way... so many new and different people in one shared setting, and at least one common topic to talk about ("so, how're classes going?") It gets harder after school is over. 4
Author liltipper Posted December 5, 2013 Author Posted December 5, 2013 Thank you nescafe1982! College (been out of it socially while getting through my challenges). She didn't respond to either. The forward looking remark in the first message, after the first bump in where she was weird, was 'hoping everything was well and perhaps see you again.' (I didn't really ask for a response as I didn't want one) So I really thought nothing of approaching her again. She knows I like her, however it can be construed, I suppose. I took the time to get to know her before and I know I can offer a lot but I just have a feeling that she is very superficial or just short sighted. "It gets harder after school is over." I suppose I'll do a graduate program then.
nescafe1982 Posted December 7, 2013 Posted December 7, 2013 "It gets harder after school is over." I suppose I'll do a graduate program then. ...that's what I did.
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