unbeknown Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 So I've been on 3 dates with this girl and we share very lengthy texts with really good conversations. I'm talking at least like 20 lines every single text and she asks 2-3 questions per message. She replies instantly as well. Even sends me tweets. These 3 dates have been spread over about a month now and the texting has been going on like this all that time. So that's a whole month of her time. Yet when I try to get her out for another date she says she doesn't know when she will be free. This has happened twice now. Most recently I felt like she was dropping hints saying she wants to see this film in the cinema but nobody will come with her and she's bored right now. So I say let's go then suddenly she's busy and maybe another time might be best. Why can't people just say if they're not interested. If I wasn't interested then I'd tell them straight up or to not hurt their feelings tone it down. I'd shortten my texts, I wouldn't ask any questions back, I'd take ages to reply. Why would someone use up so much of their time replying to me if they weren't interested? Life's too short as it is. There's no way I'd waste this much time messaging someone back. This has happened 2-3 times now as well with different girls. I wish dating was simple (well it is on my part anyway as I don't play games). I've been on plenty of dates where myself or the girl has said afterwards through text something along the lines of "you're really fun and thanks for tonight but I don't think there was any chemistry". Simple.
Iguanna Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Maybe she wants to get to know you better before she creates a relationship. Not all people can open up to people they just met. She may take her time or she may want to play it hard to get so you see her more seriously. Maybe she doesn't want to show that she is easy. Many things may be happening. Give it some time more if you like her and spice it up a bit, like send her a text with a more "revealing" context. You don't have anything to lose anyway.
Author unbeknown Posted December 6, 2013 Author Posted December 6, 2013 Yeah that could be a possibility thanks. She found me on facebook the other night and added me (I haven't accepted yet as I hate having girls I'm dating on facebook, I feel fb ruins everything). I also have a fashion blog and use a facebook page which she also 'liked' so she deff wouldn't be doing that if she was trying to fade me out, surely? Would be pretty weird if it was anyway ha. Any other opinons on this matter? Cheers!
d0nnivain Posted December 6, 2013 Posted December 6, 2013 Some people are just chatty. My texts have gotten lengthier since I mastered the use of the microphone feature & no longer have to type them. Could her reluctance to get together have to do with a busy schedule this time of year?
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