reuelle Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 (edited) So... I met this guy on a dating site. Turns out we're from the same country. Woot! We messaged a couple of times, but I mentioned that I rarely log on to that site (which is true, I do so every 3 months or something) and that if he wants to keep in touch, he can add me on FB. He said "yes, let's keep in touch. This is my email address. I'll find you." I have no pics on that site, and had promised to send some, which I did despite thinking a fb add AND emailing pics is kinda redundant. I could tell he had read the mail, but it was another day, maybe two? before he added me. After a century. Okay, after two days. (Probably worth pointing out that I sent that email late Thanksgiving night.) I accepted his fb add a day later. And now... we're both silent. Is this guy interested? Should I reach out? Am I overthinking things, like someone dear to me suggested I am? "If you want to say hey, just say hey!" she said. It's very early days yet - VERY early days! - but I don't want to waste my time because I don't wanna find myself in the Coping thread. What's the most efficient & mature way to figure out what he's thinking without compromising my dignity? He hasn't asked for my number, etc. He does say he is laid back, but wow, this to me seems to be laaaaaaaaaaaaaid back, like super laid back, or playing games, or simply not interested. How do I figure out which it is? I mean it's only been two days since I accepted his add, but...? We're both in our late 20s. Edited December 3, 2013 by reuelle
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Put zero emotional investment in this until you meet but sent him a note. Hey. What's up. Thanks for adding me. That sort of thing. See what he says / does.
Author reuelle Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 Thanks! I agree, and I'm actually determined not to invest emotionally into any relationship until things are official. There's no possible way to figure out exactly what he's thinking, but I'm wondering WHY he won't just reach out. Sigh.
Author reuelle Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 Ugh. He read my mail right away but hasn't replied, two hours later. How much time does it take to reply a one-liner? Am I overreacting if I say... NEXT!
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