Juha Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 She is 19, has been a semi sheltered well off girl. First thing is we were great friends first, best friends for a year or so. Always there for each other, knew everything about each other. Totally trusted each other. Then it escalated into more. It got more serious than either of us wanted. She escalated it as her feelings grew very strong and she loved me as I did her. I would do anything for this girl. She got scared of her feelings it seemed. She would say that she does not like her strong feelings for me. She does not know what to do with them. She transfers to college two hours away. First time in her life she is on her own, parents kind of ruled her life growing up. First couple of weeks are normal. Were talking and texting then she starts to pull away and just stops contacting and more or less disappears. Answers some of my texts with one or two words. If I talk about her or anything personal she does not answer or says things are great. Stops calling and does not answer my calls. I only called a couple of times and texted 4 or 5 times in those two weeks. She broke up with me in October with no real reasons. Just a bunch of things, tells me she loves me but is not in love with me Also told me that I am very important to her, she wants/needs me in her life forever and wants me as her friend. She then runs off the phone and away from me. I went NC right away. Month later she calls late one night, obviously been drinking. Tells me she has been thinking and that were never getting back together, ever nor does she want a relationship with me. Then tells me she misses me, the guys there are not as good as me and she wants me there right now. lol I go back to NC. I get sick and in hospital, she gets in touch to see how I am. Keep it short and tell her I am good and will be totally fine. I ask her to get together for coffee or go out and do something fun. Tells me she is not sure it's a good idea. Thanksgiving again she gets in touch to see if I am doing ok and wished me a Happy Thanksgiving. I again ask her to get together and she just goes off on me. Saying there is no reason for us to ever spend any time together, she does not love me. Was just seeing if I am ok because she cares about me. We can only get together and do things when we can be friends. Made semi plans to meet Friday to exchange our things. She never got back to me until 2 hours before i suggested to meet and by then I already made other plans with a friend to go out and could not meet. Told her and never heard back form her. Today she is all bitchy about meeting in a text and that she wants her comfy clothes back and just wants my clothes gone from her house. I answer with a time and she never gets back to me until that time. So I tell her I'm not around but will come back to meet (just so I can get this over with, I'm done with it) she tells me it's ok don't come back but tell her when i can meet. I tell her tomorrow @ 2, she responds with I'll try and be available. I respond with I am busy with things I need to do and can't wait around for her to decide if she can meet tomorrow. I tell her that when she is sure of a day and time to let me know. Thoughts on this girl? What is her deal? Problem?
Author Juha Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 Thank you to anyone who responds. Also she said we don't have to talk when we meet but figured I wanted to. So can see she does not want to talk at all. Just wants to run away. i said to her she never said anything just ran away from me. SHe told me she did not run away she ended the relationship. LOL Just looking for some insight into how she just did a 180 and seems angry and hates me now. After we meet and exchange our things I am NC.
Author Juha Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 really would like some opinions. anyone? would like to discuss this...
SameOldFear Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 really would like some opinions. anyone? would like to discuss this... Just keep going NC. Honestly to me, it sounds like she wants her cake and to eat it too. But don't let her. She can't get any part of you, because she didn't treat you right. Make sure she knows that by going NC.
strive Posted December 11, 2013 Posted December 11, 2013 Every time you keep asking her to meet up is an ego boost for her so she keeps on blowing you off. Then suddenly you have plans that doesn't include her and now she's mad (she didn't get the ego boost she wanted). She (maybe subconsciously) just wants you wrapped around her finger.
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