DWL1991 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I have an interesting hookup situation on my hands that hopefully doesn't bore you guys to death. I normally wouldn't resort to posting something like this online but I am completely baffled. First, a little history. One of my friend's sisters and and I have had a thing for each other ever since we graduated high school (I'm 22 now and she is 21). However, she didn't tell me that she had an interest in me until I left for college and then a year later she left for college too so nothing ever materialized. Fast forward to this past week. Thanksgiving eve (the biggest drinking night of the year) comes around and she is home for the holiday. A big group of us go out drinking. She and I eventually are very drunk and end up hooking up when we got back to my place. Her brother is one of my roommates and doesn't mind this at all. As far as I can remember (and that memory is limited due to inebriation) things went well and I texted her the next day saying I had fun and was glad we could finally act on our long time interest in each other. She responds accordingly and all seems fine. She even said she normally doesn't do things like that and would have been upset about it if she hadn't known me so well. She was still in town when we went out again on Saturday night and although I certainly wasn't banking on hooking up with her again, I thought that it was a strong possibility that we would considering how apparently well things had gone earlier in the week. Long story short, ultimately she ended up not talking to me hardly at all that night and to make matters worse was getting cozy with some random guy at a bar. This is not what really got to me though. In addition to that, my other friend (not her brother) later told me that she spoke to him before hooking up with me on Wednesday to try to gauge my interest. This was odd because she knew I was into her, but no big deal. The thing that really annoyed me is that apparently she talked to that same friend again on Saturday during the midst of the night and told him I was being too handsy/invading her space/something along those lines (my friend was pretty drunk as well and did not remember exactly what she said). Now, the thing is I am 100% sure that I was not handsy and did not pay a lot of particular attention to her on Saturday. I was under the impression that if she wanted to hook up again then she would initiate it as she had before on Wednesday night. Therefore, I spread my attention on Saturday night around the group (there were no other girls present in the scenario either). So ultimately my question is this: As a girl in this situation, why would she choose to possibly hook up with some random guy on Saturday night rather than me who she has known and liked for a long time and everything went well with the initial hookup on Wednesday night? Furthermore, I am completely shocked about her telling my friend that I was somehow invading her space or something on Saturday night. The only thing I can think of to explain this is her trying to rationalize not wanting to hookup with me again on Saturday, which as I said makes no sense whatsoever. How are you willing to have sex with me one night and then not want me "invading your space" or whatever a few nights later? The only other significant information is that she recently got out of a relationship and said she doesn't want another one right now. That should not play a role though because she is still out of state for school so me getting attached and wanting a relationship isn't really an option right now. I was kind of hoping that there would be future chances to hook up with her over Christmas break which is in a few short weeks. After that thing she told my friend though I'm not really sure what to think of it now. Any thoughts on this strange behavior? I apologize for the storybook in advance.
MidwestUSA Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Maybe she's embarrassed about Wednesday. Maybe the drunken sex wasn't all that great. Maybe she doesn't even remember much of it. It's sad that after taking all that time to get around to showing interest in each other, you both had to get so drunk. Live and learn.
Author DWL1991 Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 Yeah I mean I can't speak for her about the sex. Maybe it wasn't great, but I still don't think it should have been that much of a turn off considering how well the rest of the night went. I was kind of hoping that once the potential awkwardness of the first hookup had passed she would be more willing in the future but I quickly found out that may not be the case. All in all it's not a huge deal because she will be at school out of state for the rest of the school year and then has a job lined up there as well so we unfortunately don't have much potential for anything more than occasional hookups at the present time.
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