Meter man Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Met this girl and have been dating for 2 weeks. Everything is going great. I initiate a date, she initiates a date. We like each other make out. But seems things are slowing down... Here's the thing I work with her and do very much like her however she has told me on the first date that she is now abstinate after having her wild times... Wich so have I and am looking to change my ways. I want a girlfriend and by golly when we have had a couple drinks she says anything that comes to mind... That is she is very sweet and cool.. But I'm sure if she was sober would not be as in depth. Well we went for another date this last Saturday to the shooting range wich was totally fun and I thought we would have dinner afterward wich she agreed to a couple days before. However she said she had to write her evaluation and be in early to work... So we ended up parked in my car talking and casually making out for about 45 min. We texted until 1 that night and the next day some. But Monday not so much. I figured I was probably crowding her because she has told me she is terribly afraid of men...like relationships haven't gone her way so far. Anyway I backed off and haven't texted her in a day... She sent me the last text. Then later that day she posted a cute video that was sad with an older couple one obviously in his death bed singing you are my sunshine my i onlysunshine. Would it be ok to text her good morning sunshine this morning and then call her later today and ask her if she would go to the company Christmas party.... Or should I ask her to Starbucks and then ask her there. What's ok
OpheliaSong Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Maybe slow down a little. You say things are slowing down but you have only been hanging out for two weeks. Give her some time to miss you.
OpheliaSong Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 time for another guy to swoop in? She is obviously being abstinate because of past relationship(s) and may not be ready for a full on relationship where someone calls or texts her all the time and works with her. I think you should invite her out in a few days to do something fun and let her know that you are interested in her. However, don't bombard her with too much calling, texting, etc. in the meantime since she seems to want things slow. If she likes him, no one is going to have a chance to come in a swoop her up. If she doesn't, he will be better off knowing sooner than later anyway.
Author Meter man Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 She has stated when she was a little drunk that she thinks she's in love with me, but that's infatuation.... I told her that I'm not any of those other guys and do like her... She replied with I like you to then have me a little smooch. I'm gonna see her at the Christmas party should I wait till I see her to talk to her... Again is it a bad idea to call and say "hey I'm gonna be looking good, would you go to the Christmas party with me?" Or no
Author Meter man Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 time for another guy to swoop in? I don't wanna risk giving her too much time because someone else may really just do that and swoop in in her
OpheliaSong Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 She has stated when she was a little drunk that she thinks she's in love with me, but that's infatuation.... I told her that I'm not any of those other guys and do like her... She replied with I like you to then have me a little smooch. I'm gonna see her at the Christmas party should I wait till I see her to talk to her... Again is it a bad idea to call and say "hey I'm gonna be looking good, would you go to the Christmas party with me?" Or no Yes, ask her if she wants to be your date. Also, do something just the two of you so you can be more than just a guy at work for her.
Author Meter man Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 Yes that sounds good, I have given dead air for a whole day.... Think I will call and ask her around 4 today when she gets off work. I work nights so were on different shifts. So far I took her Rock climbing on our first date... Been to bars in between in a social setting with co workers. We're all in the military so it happens., hockey game last week then the gun range Saturday.... This weekend she wants to do dinner, and I'm going to hopefully be able to take her to the zoo to walk through the Christmas lights... Think today is last day to ask her to party because its on Thursday night?
Author Meter man Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 I should probly not ask to go to the Christmas party over the phone right. So ask her something like , hey r u free this evening would you meet up with me... Then ask her while we're together.... But if she says no can I still play it off cool and ask her to be my date over the phone.
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 After that video I think it would be morbid to text her Good morning sunshine. You should ask her for coffee & on that date talk about going to the company holiday party together. She may not be ready to throw your relationship in your co-workers' face. Since you both work there, discretion is best. BTW, what is your company's policy on interoffice dating? You better know that before you announce your relationship to your bosses.
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