d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 My cousin has a new GF. She's not really that new; they have been together for over a year. She invited DH & I to her parents' Christmas party -- it's a very large swanky affair with over 100 people. I kind of feel weird accepting the inviation. Is it too soon? I have met her brothers & their wives/girlfriends from an impromptu BBQ this summer. I don't know what about this is bugging me. I used to go to the home of my cousin's EX-wife's family all the time, before & after they were married. She's been out of the picture for 10+ years.
OpheliaSong Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I don't think it is weird, or too soon. My parents and I have a huge Christmas party four days before and invite all family, acquaintances and anyone we just like. They are wealthy and it is a swanky affair, and most of the time it is really fun. We dance and chat and drink wine and eggnog and have oodles of food. We meet new people, catch up with older people we haven't seen in a while. maybe they are just like us and like to host parties. People will break up and while I know it is hard to accept new people, she may be someone your cousin is with the rest of their lives. You may want to invest with hope in your heart. I hope you have a really great time. 1
Silly_Girl Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Some people are all in, like that, other families aren't. I know loads of families who would see that as standard, my lot just don't. I like the idea. Is it free booze?
Author d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 a bunch of drunks. Not necessarily but free champagne is a good thing. silly_girl: I think that's my issue. I'm not an all in kind of person. I let new people in very cautiously. Shortly after meeting my now MIL about 3 months into my relationship with my husband, then new BF, she said something about looking forward to having me as a DIL. I thought she was bonkers at the time. Clearly, she was smarter than me.
iris219 Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 I think it's considerate that she's inviting her bf's extended family to her party. It sounds like having both families come together for the holidays is important to her, which is nice, not weird at all, especially since they've been together for over a year. She sounds sweet. You said you used to hang out with your cousin and his ex before they were married, so what's the difference?
Author d0nnivain Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 My cousin's 1st wife was his friend for about 10 years before they dated. Also I hung out with the woman, not her family. The first time I met her parents was at her shower. I have hung out with my cousin's GF. I have met her siblings. This to me is different because it's her parents' event.
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