Flgurl1964 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Im so glad I found you. I have had nobody to talk to. I have been thinking of leaving for several months now even though I do still have feelings for him. I just cant live with his compulsive lying. I don't know that he's ever cheated. Most days he makes me feel like poo on the bottom of his shoe. Right before Thanksgiving he decided he was done with me and those were his exact words. His excuse then was my attitude, complaining I don't feel good most of the time, tired etc. Well I do confide in him when I don't feel well I thought he was not just my husband but my friend (I have crohns disease). I do work full time so I do get tired. Now his excuse is I wasn't giving him sex ( which I wasn't) I had health issues but he wasn't offering it either I guess the part where we said in sickness and health ment nothing to him. We have major communication issues. I talk he contradicts. He just wants to be the one to end it I suppose. We do have a 17 yr old that he totally hates that will be going with me of course. I really just need someone to talk to. Im probably rambling there is so much more to say I just dont know where to begin.
Raena Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 You came to the right place Most people are very helpful here. What is it that you want out of this relationship with him right now? It sounds like you are on the fence but considering leaving. You deserve to be treated with respect so keep that in mind as you consider how you want to handle this situation.
Author Flgurl1964 Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 You came to the right place Most people are very helpful here. What is it that you want out of this relationship with him right now? It sounds like you are on the fence but considering leaving. You deserve to be treated with respect so keep that in mind as you consider how you want to handle this situation. At this point there is nothing to get from this relationship. I'm not even sure we had a real relationship to start with. I want it over and I am moving out probably March I think once im out Ill feel a lot better because even though I want out I do still care for him but I do not beleive the feeling is mutual. I dont even think he likes our son to be truthful he's never really been there for him. Im probably the most hurt over how he could be with me 19 yrs and have a child with me and be so nonchalant about the whole break up. Hell he's even offering to help me move but says hes in no hurry to divorce. I am so confused. I have 2 older children who I love dearly from before I met him and he had an older daughter that he had before I met him as well. Now here's the things she is everything to him. Which I'm glad he's there for her but for our son to see this is very hurtful. Is it possible to care for someone and hate them at the same time? I swear I that's I feel. He has no respect for me never has never will Love is blind for sure. Well that's my ramble for this morning : )
elbe Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. Relationship problems are no individual's fault. Hang in there and work on your health.
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