Z_man99 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Hi guys, This is a very long story but I need opinions. I'm extremely confused. I have been dating my girlfriend now for a year and a half. We now live together... Although this is the case, I mostly support us as she is on government payments but she pays what she can towards rent and groceries. A few months ago I felt I was losing love for her, and gaining feelings for someone else... I mean since day one I have occasionally had doubts as she has been extremely manipulative from the start (long story short she uses manipulation subconsciously as it was learnt behaviour from her difficult childhood). We recently went on an overseas trip together, and we had a lot of trouble on this trip. A lot of arguments and differences... While I figured that it you're in a different country you should experience as much as possible, she felt the opposite... So for example I mentioned I wanted to spend a half day walking around Central Park, and she replied with "that's stupid, it's a park, we'll spend an hour and that's it", I wanted to walk across the brooklyn bridge and she said no so I told her I would do it alone and she can relax an she responded with "thanks. You're going to leave me alone. Great boyfriend". The arguments got so bad to the point she was telling me she felt we were drifting apart.... Until one night I seeked support about our arguments from an online friend. This talk became slightly sexual (no cybersex) and I felt tremendous guilt because of this, so I ended up telling my girlfriend... Obviously she didn't cope well. Now that we are back, I saw my best friend and spoke to them about the situation, and when my girlfriend found out she became very angry saying I should tell her first that I was going to talk to a friend. Like I need to get her permission. She told me she wasn't going to speak to any of her friends as she was protecting me and didn't want them thinking of me differently (manipulation and guilt). Since then though, think seem to be working. We have our occasional arguments, like I told her I was worried about house repayments because she's starting full time Uni and she said it's my house not hers so I'll deal with it. Even though these arguments happen, and when they do I feel I can't be with her anymore, the thought of leaving her really upsets me. A lot. The thought of her being with another guy upsets me even more. I really can't imagine life without her bit there's just so much confusion at the moment. What do you guys think?
ja123 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I think you're unhappy and that you should end it. Take a risk, and be alone.
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