hopefloats2014 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I dated Joe for almost 2 years when I got to college and was madly in love with him even though I wasn't treated well. I felt like he used me for sex, didn't really love me, didn't care about what I felt, etc. Eventually, we broke it off after 2 months of breaking up and getting back together. (We broke it off because I found out he wasn't in love with me, I got mad, pretty much forced him to break up with me, etc.) I met Mike during the 2 months of breaking up and getting back together phase with Joe. I guess Mike was kind of a rebound, but I really liked him. However, things moved way too fast. He was soon calling me his girlfriend, became needy immediately, etc. However, he treated me so well. He took me shopping, on trips, out on dates a lot. Throughout the entire relationship, I kept thinking about Joe. I guess a little part of me still loved Joe… and then I broke it off with Mike because I felt like we (our personalities) were totally incompatible, even though we were really crazy about each other. The day after I broke up with Mike, I spent the night with Joe and we kissed. I kinda was hoping we would one day get back together, but I don't know if that will happen. Right now, I'm just afraid I made the wrong decision. I feel so bad for Mike since he genuinely loved me. I feel so guilty. Do you think that I should just be alone? I'm so scared of being alone though… but that fear has never landed me anywhere good.
CarrieT Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 How old are all of you? If under 28, then don't decide at all and wait…. Things, beliefs, and life-direction are going to change dramatically sometime around your 30th year like you won't believe.
Mariposa10 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 How old are all of you? If under 28, then don't decide at all and wait…. Things, beliefs, and life-direction are going to change dramatically sometime around your 30th year like you won't believe. Could you talk about this a little bit more? I'm 26 years old and when my ex and I broke up I felt like I was dying... but then I started thinking that maybe he's not the one for me, that the older me would not want to be with him in the future... OP, I think you should takes things slowly... I don't know, did you keep in touch with your ex while you were dating the new guy? I'm happy you ended things with the new guy otherwise it wouldn't have been fair to him.... Maybe you should try being single or date your old boyfriend again? otherwise you two will only have the same problems, don't you think? Keep us posted!
emva07 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I feel that if something doesn't make you happy, why do it? Seems that for separate reasons, both of these guys don't make you happy. I found that this "being alone" that I also somewhat feared is what now makes me the happiest.
FrostBlaze Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Really curious on what side you will pick, because this is ALMOST the exact same story i am in, just that i am the "Mike" of your story and we had pretty much identical personalities >_>. In my case. The girl went back to Joe and never spoke to Mike ever again.(as of yet) Anyhoo, perhaps none of them are good for you, and it is just your fear of being lonely..so look for someone else.
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