beyondcrushed Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 So, this guy I met once for coffee seemed ok. Enough that I suggested we go out again. So, we made plans a week and a half in advance. But he cancelled saying his daughter had surgery that day. He apologized profusley. I take it at face value. We reschedule. He cancels again a few hours prior saying he's taking his daughter to get looked at because she's having a reaction to her surgical site. No problem. Seems legit. We reschedule to tonight. 5:30pm dinner at a local restuarant. He says he has to work on a friends dishwasher but should be ok for 5:30pm. He shoots me some texts a few hours before about some over the top story...."Are you able to do a little later? Maybe 6 or 6:30?? I ran into some hiccups on the job I'm doing. IT inovlves the homeowners water supply, so I gotta remedy this situation before I leave today."....I agree to 6:30. 6:30 rolls around he texts, "Actually still on the job. I've isolated the problem, and hoping to leave my guy to it!!! We had to crawl in a 2 foot space 25' long!! Already taken 5X longer than I anticipated!! Not a good way to enjoy a day off!!! LOL."...."The woman's father used a steel strap to support a copper line It corroded, and caused a pinhole leak, and the reason for a failed pressure test! I'll shoot you another text as soon as I depart. I will need to change, not grubby, but not how I'd like you to see me on our 2nd encounter...".....then a few minutes later after I say "sure", he says, "I am genuinely apologize!! I feel very disrespectful right now, and I am sorry for that! Normally I would left already. But this is for a colleague from work, this sort of thing always seems to occur with someone your related to, or see on a regular basis!" So, I think his story is so over the top it might just be bs. And even if it were all true, I believe its a sign for things to come if I date this guy. Thoughts?
ThatMan Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I think this guy is doing the right thing by putting his daughter first in his life. Did you go on that second date at a rescheduled time? How was it?
RedRobin Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 OP, your time is important. Don't let anyone else think it isn't. Doesn't matter if it's his kid, work, his grandma, or whatever. You put things aside in order to meet with him, and he should respect that. This man has other priorities. Find someone who plans better, is my advice. 1
winny Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Ok this guy sounds so similar to the guy in my posts. Rescheduling and giving big stories and frequent updates thru texts. So that you don't know what to believe. Anyways, whatever he does, he is not supposed to keep you waiting. This is what you need to do. If he isn't able to make it to the date within 15-30 mins of the initial time set by him, you cancel from your end. Don't make a big deal out of it. Just cancel and say next time.
KatZee Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 His story has way too much detail and it's way too intricate. That's usually the indicator of a liar. 3
vanek26 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Yeah smells like bs to me. He's using these extraordinary situations to get out of seeing you rather than trying to work around them. Just stop talking to him completely. Even in the best case scenario where these excuses are all legitimate (I can almost guarantee they are not) it still is clear that he doesn't value your time at all and thinks he can sweet talk his way out of it. Not a good foundation.
Author beyondcrushed Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 Yup, not knocking his daughter coming first but like others said, he is a poor planner. He doesn't value me or my time. And yes, too much detail I think equals lie. Even if truths, he'd always put everything else before me. So, I text him back saying "you are excrutiatingly late and yes, it's disrespectful. For that, I am no longer interested. Good luck with your search" (for miss right). And I haven't heard from him. Thanks everyone! Glad my gut instinct works:) 2
StanMusial Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Does it even matter if he is lying or not? The fact is he has too much going on to date. I was trying to date a girl a couple of years ago, she flaked a couple of times and I just gave up. She had some crazy excuse one time and the other time she just failed to show. Honestly, what bothers me more is not missing out on that little princess but missing out on what alternative plans I missed.
NoMoreJerks Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 If he doesn't have the time , he shouldn't be dating, as simple as that.
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