Bindi33 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Okay so long story short, I met a guy and we went on a casual afternoon date. The date ended up lasting over 5 hours because of just talking. Well it's been about a week and we've had several texting conversations (sometimes he initiated sometimes I did). Anyways, we were talking today and talked about how my birthday is this week and he said that if I didn't have plans that he would like to cook dinner for me if I was interested. I didn't have plans so I said yes. But after thinking about it, I'm very skeptical. It seems to be a pattern for me that I find that dbag guys that are out for sex. So, my train of thought is that he is expecting sex since he is inviting me over for dinner rather than taking my out to a restaurant for my birthday. Am I wrong? Right? Thoughts?? 1
Phantomu Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 regardless if you are wrong or right about his intentions, you still have a choice in the matter. So if he just wants sex or that's what it leads up to, you have the choice to say no. Feel it out but don't punish people for your past experiences because this is a different person who may or may not have those intentions. CHOICE. You can honestly not know until the time comes unless he makes it completely obvious.
krista28 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I agree with phantom. maybe he just wants to be nice and impress you. don't let him try to get you into bed..if he tries just say im not comfortable with this then go home, then ull know hes a dbag and be outta there unscathed. worth a shot though 2
gaius Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Trust your instincts. They sound spot on to me. 2
vanek26 Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 OP, I give you credit for recognizing the situation. Offering to make you dinner means he's either a really nice guy who happens to like cooking or he's just trying to isolate you in a situation that can facilitate sex. I'm sure you know what the more likely possibility of the two is. Like the others have said, of course you have a choice. Don't allow him to seduce you and you will be fine. Enjoy the meal, see how the conversation goes, and don't give him a happy ending. You'll be able to judge the temperature of the relationship after that.
Author Bindi33 Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 Thanks for the responses. I went ahead and told him that I wasn't quite comfortable with going to his house for the second date. Instead, I suggested that he take me out for a drink if he would like and he agreed. I hope I made the right choice. I'm just not ready to even put myself in that position yet. I find the offer to cook for me so sweet and romantic, but I also don't know his intentions with me yet so I don't want to put myself into a position where I really like him because of something I find romantic only to find out that it wasn't romantic at all, just an attempt to get into my pants. I don't want to have any regrets on my birthday so I just feel like a casual drink for my bday is a safer choice considering we've only been out once. I hope I'm making the right choice. 2
Phantomu Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 You did make the right choice then Bindi. I like your idea way better than his good job.
DontWorryBHappy Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Not a bad choice. Trust your instincts!
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