BN1990 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Hey everyone, first post, Will run through the details as fast as i can... Been together 3years, 23 and 24old, broke up in julyThe last few months in the relationship haven't been great, i didnt appreciate her, i was being a negative person and took her for grantedShe went on a holiday with all her friends and a few days later broke up with me( i completely trust she done nothing )Tried pleading and asking for a chance until sept when i went NCNC lasted until a Week ago when i contacted her ( Roughly 20th Nov')She said in july the reason why the breakup happened because it "fizzled out and not on the same wave length"She has been out lots and just finished College, seems to be focusing more time on friends and searching for a careerWhen in the relationship we both really loved each-other and she loved seeing me of which i took for granted (Stupidly) I recently contacted her because i miss her in my life. She was hesitant to meet up as it was quite out of the blue, we met up and at the end i asked for a chance, even after all this time. ) she said she has noticed really good change for the good and I'm more positive. She said she didnt know and the next day said she regrets not giving me a chance in July when we broke up and misses me in her life but still doesn't want to be in a relationship. She said that even if something was going to happen it wouldn't happen by just rushing in like i did... I agreed to stay friends but I'm just not sure if it is flogging a dead horse. Part of me is saying "be friends and maybe she might see the new me and maybe something can happen down the line" but i also dont want to hold myself up in the recovery... but i want to be with her more than anything... Anyways id love to be with her but would like if anyone has experience with this kind of topic.... ( Being friends -> relationship -> breakup -> friends->trying to be in a relationship ) ... She is really confused and admitted to running away from grieving the relationship... any tips what to do? Ps im not looking for Comments like "move on" please... thanks for any help :-D
thompkevin Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 Hey, Like you said, it could be anything. The best way to go about it is to be friends with her and try to build up the attraction with her for a while. When you are confident enough, tell her you want to give it another chance and if she says no, you have to move and you can't be friends with her. If she says no at that time, then yes you should move on.
Author BN1990 Posted December 3, 2013 Author Posted December 3, 2013 hey thanks, Yeah i think your right but i think i have exhausted all my options, i know now she doesnt want a relationship but she is extremely indecisive and i dont really want to let this go... i will see how things go but i dont want to be friendzoned and stay there not sure how to go around this...
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