Crila16 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 My ex dumped me after 4 mos. We spent a lot of time together, he’s met my family and all my friends, we were talking future (he’s 10 years divorced)…then he dumped me for the most stupid reason over a minimal argument. I can’t even call it an argument, because it wasn’t even that. The way he dumped me was cruel. A text at 2:30am on a Monday morning. Nice way to wake up and start the work week. I begged him to talk about it, that it was easily resolved. He said he would, but something always came up and he kept pushing off the meet up to another day. I realized pretty quickly, he doesn’t want to resolve things with me. I told him I was ok to go our separate ways and we didn’t have to talk. He basically said “Ok, but didn't want me to think he never cared”. I don’t know what happened, but he was just done with me…over night…after telling me he loved me 2 weeks before. Anyway, I’ve had absolutely NC. I won’t allow myself, because I know it’s the only way I’ll move on. If he doesn’t care, I’m going to try to force myself not to care. Well…I got a txt from him on thanksgiving which shocked me, “Hope you had a great Thanksgiving”. He just dumped me a month ago. It wasn’t a pleasant breakup, and he hurt me. Was I wrong for responding? I said “Thx. U too.” Here it is a few days later, and I’m kicking myself for having been nice. I’m also angry that he contacted me now, because I actually for a minute thought…maybe he’s having second thoughts. I know I made the mistake of reading into his txt, but it’s hard not to when you’re the one dumped and you still have strong feelings for the person who dumped you, and you want to know that they realized they made a mistake. I grasped at straws. I’m just so angry. I’m heading into anger phase. I think the dumper should always just leave the dumpee alone and let them move on and get over it.
deponie12 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 just start again- NO CONTACT. Silence speaks volumes. 2
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 It wasn't wrong. It wasn't anything. It does prove that you are polite. Forgive yourself & move forward.
LostConfused123 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Those Damn breadcrumbs!!! I was stupid enough to think I wanted one until I got it. . . They are like a drug. . . at least you are smart enough to see right through it and how destructive they are. ((hugs))
Author Crila16 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 Thank you. I really appreciate your responses. I just wish they dumper would stop and think about the feelings of the dumpee for once. I'm respecting his wishes by staying away...he should respect my feelings by letting me move on. 1
organizedchaos Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 My ex dumped me after 4 mos. We spent a lot of time together, he’s met my family and all my friends, we were talking future (he’s 10 years divorced)…then he dumped me for the most stupid reason over a minimal argument. I can’t even call it an argument, because it wasn’t even that. The way he dumped me was cruel. A text at 2:30am on a Monday morning. Nice way to wake up and start the work week. I begged him to talk about it, that it was easily resolved. He said he would, but something always came up and he kept pushing off the meet up to another day. I realized pretty quickly, he doesn’t want to resolve things with me. I told him I was ok to go our separate ways and we didn’t have to talk. He basically said “Ok, but didn't want me to think he never cared”. I don’t know what happened, but he was just done with me…over night…after telling me he loved me 2 weeks before. Anyway, I’ve had absolutely NC. I won’t allow myself, because I know it’s the only way I’ll move on. If he doesn’t care, I’m going to try to force myself not to care. Well…I got a txt from him on thanksgiving which shocked me, “Hope you had a great Thanksgiving”. He just dumped me a month ago. It wasn’t a pleasant breakup, and he hurt me. Was I wrong for responding? I said “Thx. U too.” Here it is a few days later, and I’m kicking myself for having been nice. I’m also angry that he contacted me now, because I actually for a minute thought…maybe he’s having second thoughts. I know I made the mistake of reading into his txt, but it’s hard not to when you’re the one dumped and you still have strong feelings for the person who dumped you, and you want to know that they realized they made a mistake. I grasped at straws. I’m just so angry. I’m heading into anger phase. I think the dumper should always just leave the dumpee alone and let them move on and get over it. Don't beat yourself up over it. It meant nothing other than he's thinking of you. 4 months post bu for me and my ex texted me wishing me a Happy Thanksgiving. I did respond, but very cold with no emotion. I simply replied saying "Thank you. Happy Thanksgiving." Just keep in NC and don't respond to anything further.
Author Crila16 Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 @Organizedchaos...did you read into it too when you got the msg? Was it a bad break up too? How are you doing now?
organizedchaos Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 @Organizedchaos...did you read into it too when you got the msg? Was it a bad break up too? How are you doing now? It was not a bad breakup, but definitely not one I wanted. Likely GIGS. We were together for almost 3 years. I didn't read anything in to it other than she was thinking of me and missed me. We spent the last 3 Thanksgiving's together. But she didn't say she wants me back, so can't read anything else in to it. And there was no further communication from her either. I miss her, a lot. But I'm not waiting around for her to make up her mind. I'm in NC now, dating, trying to move on.
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