Sammills Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 My boyfriend of 4 years, says he wants to brake up with me. When he went to brake up with me i started crying, for 4 hours in front of him. Not one tear from him. I asked him why hes not crying and he said he has already cryed. he said he was not expecting me to be this upset. It came out of the blue to me but he said it was a long time coming, we have been fighting alot lately. He said he stopped loving me in August but I have texts with him saying I love you till november 3. I tried to brake up with him over the summer but I could not and gave us another chance. He said that was the main reason hes braking up with me, I explained to him in some twisted way I thought that would make him closer to me and want to work on our relationship. After hearing that he says he needs to think about things. I asked him to work on it and give us another chance and he said he needs to think about it. II asked him if he still loves me and he said he does not know, I asked him if he wants to be together and he said he does not know. He says he still cares for me and wants to stay friends. I can't stay friends i have tried to make it clear I'm still in love with him and i cant be friends with someone I'm in love with, he does not really grasp that he's losing a friend too. Now he asked for time to think and I cant stand it not knowing so i texted him to please tell me if were still together and he says I'm annoying him, and he needs time to think. what should I do? Is he going to break up
Philosoraptor Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 His mind is made up but guilt is holding him back. He feels bad for hurting you, but he's going to end the relationship at some point. I'd simply respond "I understand you want to end the relationship. Please do not contact me. Good luck in the future". 3
barky2 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 ^ that. You've had no other replies because Phil hit it on the head. Begin grieving period. You will over come this, I promise you. Do not beg it plead, because everything from here on out will be strictly from guilt on his end. Barky
Author Sammills Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) I know i have talked to him for 4 years everyday ( 1 year long-distance ) I feel like if it was this bad why could he have said something, like things need to start changing. I want to wait to hold out hope that he might change his mind. But it also makes me feel so week and helpless. It hurts he hugged me goodbye after our conversation and said he has alot to think about he has not told his friends or family yet were done and has not changed it on facebook. Hes my best friend and I'm a naive broken women. Edited December 2, 2013 by Sammills
organizedchaos Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 His mind is made up but guilt is holding him back. He feels bad for hurting you, but he's going to end the relationship at some point. I'd simply respond "I understand you want to end the relationship. Please do not contact me. Good luck in the future". Yep, same thing in my situation. For months she kept giving me "Let's just see how things go" or "it's too soon to hang out" etc... So I told her essentially the same thing Philo wrote. YOU need to make them realize you are done, it is done, and you are not waiting around for them to make up their mind. This message will essentially force them to deal with their actions. 2
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