kimmi Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Going to make this as short as I can it may seem complicated or even down right weird but trust me its all real. I am a kin parent to a 2.5 year old . It was only going to be 6 months however I not have custody od the child. the child has 3 sibblings that are all older then her. I only know the oldest and the youngest one. Last time I seen the oldest one was whenn he was 2 now just turned 11 and I got to see him again . This Child is in foster care and has been for many years. His Father who. happens to be a really good friend of mine just found out he is the bio dad through a DNA test . We have talked a lot about the 11 year old coming and living with us however his father saddly has a terminal illness and he can not care for him as his health is getting worse . I help him with his health problems as well have a toddler to run after . The home he is in is juat amazing . We have all met and there is no way I would even think to take him from there. Tje worker has contacted me and told me that she wants him to now meet his aister . Im very excited about this but the questions he will have. His mother is not allowed to see him because she can not commit to staying i. His life however she keeps on having kids ? Any suggestions how to deal with all of it without freakng him out.
turnera Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 What's a kin parent? I'm not sure exactly what you're asking?
Author kimmi Posted December 4, 2013 Author Posted December 4, 2013 (edited) A kin parent is I know the mother of a child thst I am raising . When a child is appheranded instead of going into fkstercare the parent can request the child be placed with a family member or a community member , eaiser for reunifacation when it is time for the child to go home. In my case I ended up in court and getting custody of the child . Now the protection agency is wanting the baby to meet her brother who is 11 years old who is also in care . The 11 year old has questions about his mother who I know but Im not allowed to talk about her to him , Im feeling sad that he has to go through thi , s Edited December 4, 2013 by kimmi
turnera Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 Well, if you're not allowed to talk about their shared mother, I guess you'd just have to put it in the 'you'll understand when you're older, for now just know that you two are related' category when you introduce them.
amaysngrace Posted December 4, 2013 Posted December 4, 2013 His life sounds so confusing that I wouldn't sweat telling him that he has a sister. It might brighten his day to know that he is a big brother. I wouldn't volunteer anything other than she is his sister but if he asks any questions I'd answer them honestly. Then I'd change the subject by asking a question about him. Eleven year olds have lots of stories.
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