kjohn Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I'm curious to get some opinions about how you would react to this situation….I'm especially curious about the male perspective on this one. My BF and I have been together for several years. Recently, he had to transfer emails from an account that was closing to another account. He had extremely provocative photos of his ex-GF from before he and I began dating and instead of deleting them he moved them to his new account. What are your thoughts on hanging onto sexy pictures of your ex?
BikerAccnt Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 Hard to say. I have some provocative pictures of my ex wife still. She was part of my history, so I keep them. I rarely look at them, yet I don't delete them. Same goes for any number of pictures of people, places and things. I rarely look at them, but they were part of my history, hence they stay.
TheBladeRunner Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 No such thing as a sexy picture of my XW......man did she go downhill . All kidding aside, I wouldn't keep them....just me. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I have photos of EXs but nothing provocative. If my husband asked me to get rid of them, I would at least be willing to weed them down. Some now only remind of fun vacations I took with those guys; the memories are more about the places then the men.
MidwestUSA Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I'll speak from projected experience. Sometimes, guys JUST DON'T THINK! (I know, right? Sorry, guys) I can see my husband doing this, just not thinking. He would be more than happy to delete them if I asked, however. I think this is where you'll find your answer. Surely there are plenty of nameless, hot women on the netz to spank to?
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 They're just trophies of past battles won...usually not a problem whatsoever, however if he's not over his ex as a whole then might be some emotional attachment to her but you'd see it in other areas not just sexy pics. Most people hold onto ex's and just relationship jump so these things can be harder to let go if they're sentimental as well.
StanMusial Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I don't understand it. So I can't really give you advice OP. My instincts from Day 1 was to leave no paper trail. Or electronic trail. No evidence of past transgressions. My instincts have served me well. 3
iris219 Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 How do you know about the pictures? Did he show you these racy pics of his ex? If so, that's weird, but at least he's not hiding them. Still really weird though. You can't make him get rid of them, but I would prefer that my bf want to get rid of provocative pics of his ex. What's the point in keeping these? It's disrespectful, IMO. I have no problem with anyone keeping G rated photos, however. My bf was with his ex for 10 years. I don't expect him to censor the past 10 years of his with life by throwing these away, but I expect there to not be any half naked pictures of her.
blueskyday Posted December 3, 2013 Posted December 3, 2013 I would probably just erase them myself. If he never looks at them, he won't even notice. If he does look at the, then he will notice but realize it's out of line. He won't dare bring it up. And he will know better. He will also know you take action and his a** could be gone before you say a word.
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