Logan oO Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) Hey everyone. This is a topic about my 'first' love oct '06 - oct - '07. I guess i'm looking for opinions rather than answers, as i'm currently on friendly terms with that ex, with no residual / physical or emotional feelings towards her, and we've even hung out and spoken about our own lives a few times. Ok, so this girl and i had gotten close without me realizing it in the winter of '06, and then i realized i liked her back. so we got together, had one of the best years of my life with her as my girlfriend, but towards the end, i got paranoid and clingy, due to her wanting to hang out with friends, and go out and stuff. (i've learned a lot since then don't worry lol). So we broke up in Oct '07, she wanted nothing more to do with me, didn't want to speak to me, or hear from me. I accepted it from day one. i went no contact all the way. Fast Forward to September 2008. One night i'm upstairs playing playstation 2 or something, i don't remember exactly, but she knocked at my door (i live with my family) and asked to see me, they knew i was ok, so told me she was at the door. She asked if i could come out for a chat as she needed to speak to me. I agreed, as i was doing much better, so didn't have any worries about what or who she was dating / doing. I'd mostly moved on by that point. So the 'thing' she wanted to talk about was that she had been pregnant with my child (the dates matched up apparently) she said his name, when he was born, and that i could see him. I was a bit shocked, but i accepted responsibility and said i would look after him at weekends if she wanted so she could still go about her life. She gave me her number so i could contact her and arrange it. Then i never heard from her again, even after trying to contact her several times. Weird? Well anyway, there wasn't a lot i could do, so i got on with my life. Fast forward to 2009 i think, and i put her 'email' into the search bar on facebook to see if she had one and, she did! so her profile was mostly public, and people were saying things on her timeline (very recent at the time) 'you'll be a good mum' , 'you're going to do fine' etc. Nobody says 'Your going to be a good mum' to someone who already IS a mother. So from that i concluded that the child she spoke to me of, did not actually exist.... Bare in mind over the years until i had seen her again i had spoken to many friends and colleagues who all thought that it was a bit 'sick' to do something like that. I hold no grudges, we all go through dark parts in our lives. So fast forward to 2012, we begin talking on fb, and i was going through one of the regular 'just been dumped' by the ex patches, so we would meet up and just walk around the park. So anyway a couple of times of meeting up, i asked her about it. Her answer was that she had no recollection of ever saying anything like that, but, she apologizes if she did, because she was pretty ****ed up back then, doing drugs and stuff apparently... Anyway to this day, she has a lovely young 3 year old lad and i hold no grudges or negativeness toward her at all. I'd just like to know what you all think would make someone you went complete NC with, come back a year later and concoct an entire back story for a child that didn't exist? Edited December 2, 2013 by Logan oO
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