Mr Confused Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) Here we go: Got set up by friends with a girl... Great looking and very outgoing personality and mature... Im 28 She is 21 Have been on two dates Date one was great, food, shopping, fininshed with 3 hour romantic stroll holding hands through a park... no kiss, but strong hug and a cheek kiss, success... Date 2, she wanted me to meet her friends and go out with them, i was reluctant as i felt we skipped a few dates but said whatever and went.. ended up gettin food with 2 other couples and we all chilled for the night cuddled up watching dvds..... Success i thought till i didnt get a good night kiss.... tried it she said not tonight... collected her from work next day (sunday) cause she worked 13 days in a row and i wanted to be nice, got food and dropped her home,, didnt expect a kiss so it was fine, got a hug but it felt very friend zoney.... Asked her that night do you think we are going anywhere, basically are you attracted to me... she avoided the question like the plague and next day (today) we just texted as normal,,, she kinda had some bad news so i didnt want to bring it up again... Dont think she dated someone before which is weird cause shes very attractive and outgoing personality... Weird one I know but what do i do, i like her but finding it hard to read her... it sounds like im being impatient, but when does it get to a stage where its just limbo Edited December 2, 2013 by Mr Confused want to add on
d0nnivain Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I'd arrange a 3rd date but if you don't get a kiss or a straight answer by then, I probably wouldn't put in any more effort. You do have to be gracious & kind when ending it because she is the friend of a friend & you may have to encounter her in the future. If your friends ask what happened, you can tell them you determined she wasn't into you because of the lack of kissing. They might offer some insight that either supports your theory or gives you a reason to reconsider. depending on how close you & the friends are if it doesn't come off like 7th grade you might make some discrete inquiries about her back ground, tastes, & anything she may have said about you. Ending it now should be a no harm, no foul because nobody should be all that invested.
Author Mr Confused Posted December 2, 2013 Author Posted December 2, 2013 (edited) Thats what i thought aswell, just dont know weather i should be more patient cause of her inexperience. More I think of it, it must be a lost cause..There has to be an underlying issue that i just dont know, all the signals are there but its just no go... Edited December 2, 2013 by Mr Confused
BenC Posted December 2, 2013 Posted December 2, 2013 I knew one like that before. Question for you -- has she never really dated anyone ... or just never really had a boyfriend? Some women might never have had a boyfriend but might have gone on dozens of dates with dozens of different guys. Some might even have relationships that last for months but they never consider them to be a boyfriend yet. To me it sounds a little odd that she'd invite you out with her friends, you'd cuddle up, etc. and she wouldn't kiss you after you guys had a brief kiss on the prior date. She might have been embarrassed to do so in front of her friends right off the bat, so it's hard to say... It'd be worth it doing a third or fourth date alone just to see where it goes, but the problem with that kind of age difference at that age is that a lot of the younger women that haven't been in prior relationships really don't know what to expect and sometimes have super high expectations from my experience. So whether it's worth it or not is largely up to you. Ben
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