What turns women on?

[elbe]

My woman friend has a few things that really surprise me. What turns you on women?

 

My friend likes boxer briefs and scents.

[Philosoraptor]

The scent of a man, a real man. None of that fruity stuff. 100% natural.

 

And biting, a good nibble in the right spot.

[xxoo]

Yes, a good inhale of his neck, no cologne.

 

Protective gestures, as simple as offering his jacket when I'm cold.

 

Seeing him be gentle and loving with our children.

 

Oddly, watching him drive a stick shift car. Hands, forearms, power....mmmm.

[theothersully]

The scent of a man, a real man. None of that fruity stuff. 100% natural.

 

And biting, a good nibble in the right spot.

 

Biting... i got bit like crazy during lat weekend's sexcapade. Felt like I was hooking up wth a ferret! ha ha ha

 

Lip bleeding just a bit and a nasty little nip to my tip. I never understood why people find pain, even slight pain, arousing. I kills my mood.

 

To each their own, but it's a mystery.

[Addison312]

Nice hands, lack of a unibrow, sexy texts while I'm at work, genuine caring from a man, a man who loves animals as much as I do, dark hair.

[elbe]

lack of a unibrow

 

I've at least got this one covered

[Khyla]

Natural manly smell. Big strong hands. Muscular thighs....

[skela]

I like guys with some hair on their chest - not really into the guys who wax so much - but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. A guy who takes the lead turns me on - in good shape and nice lips. Yummy!!

[georgieg]

Scent is a big one for me. The right cologne is good, as is just a guy's natural smell.

 

Beards. And really long goatees.

 

Men who work with their hands, but have brains, too. Give me a guy who's a mechanic or carpenter or what-have-you, but reads in his spare time, and I'm hooked.

 

Strong hands, nice shoulders, and cute butts. I totally have a thing for butts...

[Khyla]

also someone who is resourceful, has wilderness survival skills,etc. and above all, loves sex!

[Pa76]

Great sex is always what I want but what keeps me is a man who does the little things throughout relationship.

[Phoe]

Scent is the only physical thing that really sets me on fire.

 

The rest is more based in mannerisms. A certain look in the eyes, a mischievous smile, some sarcastic and witty teasing.

 

 

If a guy can banter with me and be sharp enough to keep up, get me all worked up bantering with me, then give me a sly look, eyes sparkling, big grin.... I'm toast. Done.

[Grumpybutfun]

 

Oddly, watching him drive a stick shift car. Hands, forearms, power....mmmm.

 

xxoo:

My wife considers that foreplay....what am I going to do with her?

G

[paigej91]

Oh yeah, scents are a big one for me too.

 

Also, I like being pushed into bed.

[NoMoreJerks]

• Respectful but not wimpy (has boundaries and respects mine too)
  
• Confident but not arrogant (is secure in himself but not douchey/competing with me)
  
• Did I say respectful? A gentleman. Showing me that he wants to get to know me, and doesn't make calculations in his head about whether I'm an upgrade on some other chick he went out with last week. He wants to dedicate time and energy to getting to know me, rather than treating me like yet another car he's trying out to see which one he wants to buy (this attitude will come out sooner or later -- usually very early on).
  
• Someone who doesn't whine about everything, especially in front of me, when we're out on a date. Keep it to yourself, if for example you didn't like something about the restaurant I picked. It's kinda insulting and makes me uncomfortable, and kills my attraction to the guy. It's hot when a guy can take something negative and turn it into something he can work with, something he can enjoy and get something out of.
  
• Someone who isn't cheap, who doesn't act like we should go to some cheap diner because he might not like me enough to want to ask me out to another date, and therefore wants to save the money "just in case" he doesn't like me. That's a turnoff. Be more generous and just treat someone with some respect instead of sabotaging it before it even starts. It's hot when a guy shows maturity and awareness of this, even if he might not be able to afford doing this more than once or twice.
  

[Outsider77]

Physically:

 

• I like broad shoulders and good muscle definition in chest
  
• Nice eyes
  
• Nice smell
  
• Somewhat tall
  
• Personal cleanliness
  
• Hair on head/no balding
  

Personality:

 

 

• High intelligence
  
• Good sense of humor
  
• Compassion/Kindness
  
• Confidence
  
• Talent
  
• Ambition
  

[NoMoreJerks]

a page of contradictions.

 

 

not wimpy, but better be scared to make a negatve coment about the restaurant you picket. so if the food was undercooked and testless and the waitress was rude, better not say anything? are you kidding?

Having tact and being wimpy are two different things. Something that a lot of people, especially men these days, do not seem to understand. If you want to come across as a whinging jerk or a crybaby, by all means do so, but I very much doubt any smart woman will be going for seconds or thirds with you, if you do that. That's also the case when you whine about everything from the speed of service to the price of the food, etc. If someone is so unable to hold back their negativity when they're supposed to be at their best behavior, it indicates that they are really negative in their life and are toxic. This was the case with my ex as well. Constantly bi*ching and moaning about things, right from the very start. There is a place and time for everything, including expressing one's views about the quality of the food or whether the restaurant is too noisy. It kills the mood, and it indicates that you value your whining more than you value enjoying your time with me. There's no point in whining. If the pub is too noisy, instead of sitting there and whining about it, if you must mention that it's noisy, do so with tact and indicate that it's standing in the way of getting to know the woman and enjoying her company, and suggest going elsewhere. Sitting there and just whining about it -- especially if the other person picked the location -- will only seem like a criticism of her choice. Almost like saying, you picked such a sh*tty place. I am just saying it like it is. If you want to keep up with nasty mannerisms, by all means, do so. But most women will feel turned off by this sort of behavior.

 

confined and not arrogant. in 47 years I've never met a person of any gender who fits that bill. sheesh

I am confident but not arrogant. I am confident in my intelligence but I don't have to act like a know-it-all, cut off people when they're talking, put down other people, etc. I also am not threatened by someone else's intelligence, unlike a lot of people (especially men who feel threatened by smart women). On the contrary, I seek out and greatly enjoy the company of people who can have intelligent conversations about things they might not even be terribly familiar with.

[NoMoreJerks]

Oh yeah, scents are a big one for me too.

 

Also, I like being pushed into bed.

I like being pushed into bed too lol. And against walls (both face-first with him touching my neck and other body parts , or with my back to the wall where he's kissing me). I have a thing for walls. lol

[NoMoreJerks]

so if my steak is undercooked, get the wrong and wrong dessert, with a rude waiter i should just shut up, yer kidding me? haven't gotten hardly any seconds and thirds during my 47 years but that's due to the pickiness of women.

Nope -- no need to eat undercooked steak; but don't keep on b*tching about it in front of the woman. Call the waiter and send the food back. Do something about it, rather than just being a crybaby. It's annoying, insulting, and a big turnoff and a waste of time. No one wants to sit there and listen to someone going on and on and on about an undercooked steak just because they're rude enough to incessantly b*tch about it in front of the woman they're interested in dating, but too wimpy to do something about it so that they can put it behind them and do things that they ought to be doing on a date: like, maybe, talking about something other than his undercooked steak, or the blender noise coming out of the pub's kitchen for a minute or two every half hour. Big turnoff. What is hot is when a guy can either ignore some minor distractions like that, or do something about it and get on with the evening. Take charge of things when things aren't to your liking, instead of just sitting there moaning. There's nothing I hate more than crybabies. I like mature problemsolvers, not tantrum-throwing toddlers who are stuck in the bodies of 40 year olds.

Edited December 3, 2013 by NoMoreJerks

[happykat]

I totally agree with men who work with their hands but use their brains.. A man working on cars, getting his strong hands dirty, smelling kinda like gas.. It's hard to explain, but just men being MEN.

I was completely turned on by a man who took my hand and put it behind his back and walked in front of me- leading me through a huge crowd at a concert, being very protective..I eat that up..

[ChessPieceFace]

Earlier I was wondering why men don't just wear cologne that smells like money.

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[todreaminblue]

Yes, a good inhale of his neck, no cologne.

 

Protective gestures, as simple as offering his jacket when I'm cold.

 

Seeing him be gentle and loving with our children.

 

Oddly, watching him drive a stick shift car. Hands, forearms, power....mmmm.

 

i dotn think its odd at all its probably the reason i am not good at directions.......i dont really watch the road if a man i like is driving stick.....:0).........deb

[elbe]

Well it appears my friend is not alone with the scent thing... I sure hope I have that special smell...

[regine_phalange]

"Turned on" is a mood. And this mood comes with;

 

A man with a deep, dreamy watery gaze. I like looking at something expressive, with substance, during sex.

A man with a big, warm smile. I want him to smile after midnight too, while having a lot of fun with me.

A man with broad shoulders and a nice neck/collar bone. Love these parts.

A man who is slim with a bit of muscle. I don't know why.

A man with old fashioned elegance... Hard to beat that one. Makes me curious.

A man who is sweaty and panting after running/jogging. No further explanation.

A man with deep, velvety voice. I'm a real sucker for voices. They can drive me mad.

A man with passion for things, for life.

A man who is feisty. I like to banter.

A man who inspires the feeling of safety. Safety equals feeling free to express yourself.

A man who is playful. It's all about having fun in the end.

A man who repairs things. I don't know why, I guess it's the same that happens to men when women cook or wash the dishes.

A man who can make me laugh. Hard.

A man who respects me. And at the same time wants to do evil things to me.